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    Default Wishing for miracle brother or sister

    We really hope that this ad resonates with someone amazing that would love to help us to complete our family.

    Our family so far is myself and DH (together for more than 15 years) and DS who is now 4 and a half. Originally we'd tried for two siblings 18 months apart- but obviously life has its own plans! DS would so love a baby brother or sister!

    We also have 5 x chooks and Charlie-doggy that we love very much. We live in a stable environment in Northern NSW, between the forest and the coast.

    It has been a big year. I turned 45 and got to our no more IVF cycles benchmark. After many many back-to back cycles (and oh so many meds!) this was hard to get our heads around. Our specialist suggested the ‘while we wait for our donor to find us’ IUI cycle. And then our- ‘just in case very lucky last IUI cycle’ came next. Sadly neither of these got us pregnant

    We feel that there is a sibling for our little boy out there somewhere. It has always felt like it was ‘meant to be’, but we need someone amazing to donate eggs to help us get there.

    Just maybe that’s you


    For anyone excited enough to read on(!), here is a bit more about us:

    Why not go Overseas?
    We will be open with our child about their beginnings. We like the idea that our child can know their donor family, so that there is no mystique. Preferably we would like some contact. Not sure what that looks like- we would like the connection with our donor to naturally unfold.


    Another baby feels like it will complete our family. We all feel it in our unique way:

    • DS has been whispering in my ear ‘Mummy, when can I have a little brother or sister?’ and if I ever bloat after eating he asks me if there is a baby in there! (Usually in public.. oops!-Awkward!)
    • DH is a touring audio guy. He spends a lot of time away from home with work commitments. He has had to deal with our infertility stress while away and without much support. I look forward to seeing him relaxing into being a papa for a new little one again. He is an amazing dad- kids love him!

    • For me, to find a donor feels like I can take my life off hold. I put many things aside when our fertility journey took over, including some work projects (I worked in theatre, music and events) completion of my training to support other women on a breastfeeding helpline, and a mums and bubs events newsletter. Finding a donor feels it will open my life back up.

    I loved being pregnant and DS will start ‘big’school next year- so this will be a nice balance of focus on him, and some ‘me’ time enjoying pregnancy. I have run preschool music classes for the local neighbourhood centre (4+ years) as my way to contribute to my local community. I look forward to meeting and supporting a whole new circle of mummas when I start back with baby classes, hopefully juggling a new bub myself!

    I can already anticipate the laughter and silly times the four of us will have together as a family, and feel excited to imagine the fun adventures that might unfold.

    We would love to find someone special to help us. We prefer to find someone under 30 if possible. We will look after our lovely 'Angel' and cover all out of pocket expenses. We see Dr Kee Ong at Monash IVF, and are hoping ideally for someone local.

    We would really love to hear from someone that this ad appeals to, and are happy to share more. We welcome you to get in touch! In deep gratitude. x

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    Beautiful ad! Wishing you lots of donor dust.
    I have donated a few times and have wonderful open relationships with my recipients, all different as they have developed organically but all in a place where their children will have access to me if they want it- I think it's lovely you want that for your child.
    I found all my recips on egg donation Australia website if you haven't tried there yet.
    Also wanted to mention how much I love Kee, he even holds your hand as you go to sleep
    Is the 30 cut off set in stone? I know many wonderful donors aged between 30-38 having great success.

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    Hi spotsmum. 'Donor dust'! I have never heard that term before. Awww, thanks!

    It is so interesting to hear that you have donated several times- amazing!- and have varied open relationships with your donor families. I love that you all seem guided by the child's best interests- in the way that fits each family. And it seems like it must be working out ok. I find this so inspiring. Thanks. It affirms this possibility.
    30 is just a preference, no set stone here, hoping to keep our odds up.

    And how good is Kee?! I think I love that man

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    Hi summersky... Beautiful add but I just had one question. Women are meant to have finished having their own families before donating right?

    I'm just curious what percentage of women, wanting to be donors are already finished having their own families before 30? Not impossible but maybe narrowing your chances?

    Sorry not really my business but you seem really lovely and genuine.

    Best of luck either way

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    Hi Meld85, Thanks for commenting!

    I just went to an open day at 'big' school with my son today and the kids there sang 'Puff'. Sorry to hear about your angel baby x

    Yes, we are really not fixed on under 30, I guess I just thought it would be good to put our preference. We would be grateful for any donor to contact us-I would hate to put anyone off!

    To answer the first question- I think clinics like it when women have finished their families; but I know with Kee this isn't necessary. Maybe its a clinic by clinic thing?

    I'm packing to go camping. Perhaps I need to try and edit my ad when I get back.
    I guess at one level we would be so thankful for anyone to come forward, and then at the other level we want to give ourselves the best shot possible- that was the context for including it. I would hate to sound disrespectful or not open to offers in any way.

    Thanks so much for your support and your comments. It has got me thinking x

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    Hi Summersky,

    I'm in the same boat as you. 1 cute 3yo daughter and our yearning for another. She also wants a sibling. She is playground mad and goes up to any kid and says" come play kiddie". As brutal as it sounds, she loves playing with other kids. I feel sorry for her being stuck out here with us oldies.

    I have an ad on here too.


    Good luck

    Jo


 

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