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    I'd say Sorry you didn't ring us first, we are doing our own thing this year and disregard them. Tell them you're busy.

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    Did they not know when you are due?
    Do they have kids?

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    I'd prob be annoyed aswell. Having a DS who is 7wks old and recovering from a horrific c-sec I would not want anyone around me at all except my immediate family...aka my folks DP and my 2 DS. My DP wouldn't even has his own family around as they stress us both out to much. We've solved the issue this year we are going to see great interstate friends and they are catering for us 4 and my folks and my sister and her DD from overseas but we've known them our entire lives. We booked it all in February.

    You could say to them they should of checked first as your going away or you already had plans that are solid concrete even though you don't

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    That does sound stressful, but I would probably just go along with it. Especially given that it's Christmas! Set some boundaries and make it clear that you're likely to not be feeling 100% and will need them to help out. If you're not feeling great on the day can you just hide out and let your DH amuse them? I would plan a really low key event with food, etc. that can be made ahead of time and doesn't need cooking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Did they not know when you are due?
    Do they have kids?
    Oh they certainly know, they are DH's parents. They've raised 5 kids, but so long ago I suppose they've forgotten the hard work involved. Our relationship is close but fractious. And honestly the pointy bits are all from instances like this - where they just don't think to ask, how do we feel about this? And just go ahead and do it.

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    Default What are your thoughts on this?

    My thoughts on this would depend on the relationship I had with them, and the kind of people they are. On one hand, it could look like they are trying to be helpful by being there to give you a hand and bringing Christmas to you.
    On the other, and this is the impression I get, is that they are usually less than helpful and being inconsiderate and rude by not checking first.

    Who knows, it could be a blessing. Lots of hands to help, and a chance for you to laze away. I'm hoping that's the case!

    Ps I hope they kick in for the food! It's not cheap!

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    Tell them you already have plans and they will need to organise their own Christmas meals elsewhere.

    If you are considering going out you probably need to book very soon.

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    Holidays, weddings etc bring out worst in families I think. We had 1 Xmas with the inlaws and my DS was 4 months... It was SO stressful for me. It was suffocating. That would frustrate me to no end if I wasn't given the heads up before they booked everything.

    I got on with it, they are just as entitled as my family to spend time with the kids and it's only for a short time in the end. I mean this in the nicest possible way but I would just suck it up. If Xmas day is the main concern, go out, no cooking or cleaning! Or perhaps your mum could host? Not fun to be stressing about Christmas already, sorry xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Who knows, it could be a blessing. Lots of hands to help, and a chance for you to laze away. I'm hoping that's the case!

    Ps I hope they kick in for the food! It's not cheap!


    Honestly I hope so too. I'm trying to be positive!

    I'm going to have to insist they do chip in, because they are very picky eaters too and we will either have to buy in stuff we usually don't eat or they will have to bring their own. Communication is so key here, and I am a very direct person, they just don't cope with direct very well... it's all "whatever you want" and "whatever is easiest" until the day when the truth comes out....

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    Oh... The passive aggressive kind... I feel you

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