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    F as I think I want to do this.

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    I have DS1 (7yrs), DD (2.5yrs) and DS2 (9 months). So a 4.5 yr gap and a 20 month gap.

    I really love my big gap. I think it is awesome and has very few negatives (actually I can only think of 1 negative, returning to the baby stage after you have already left it behind can be a little tedious). My DS1 and DD absolutely adore each other. They are incredibly close and play together beautifully. They will spend weekends playing together from sun up to sun down. I love it.

    I am hoping my closer gap will pay off in time, but right now I definitely prefer the larger one. Dd was still such a baby herself when she became a big sister.

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    Default 2 year gap between 1st and 2nd then 3 year gap between 2nd and 3rd?

    My first 2 are 13 months apart which was v hard work in the early days, now it's great as they're pretty much doing the same thing and their bond is incredible - they are a package deal. Then there is a gap of 3 years between my 2nd and 3rd which has been a lot easier in the sense of workload as I only have 1 baby and the boys help, are independent and can do most things for themselves. Even with a 3 year gap I have felt I've gone right back to the beginning but my boys adore their little sister and I think the gap has worked perfectly.

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    Thanks for starting this thread. I have 20 months between 1 and 2 and was aiming for similar with number 3.
    Unfortunately 2 years TTC has meant the age gap between 2 and 3 will be 3 and a half years...I was really stressed for this belly bubba being left out and lonely... I was already thinking of how to convince DH to go for a fourth just so this one is not alone...
    Now I'm starting to feel positive for the gap... Especially since DS will start school just before this Bub is born... DD and this one will have more one on one time together...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    Thanks for starting this thread. I have 20 months between 1 and 2 and was aiming for similar with number 3.
    Unfortunately 2 years TTC has meant the age gap between 2 and 3 will be 3 and a half years...I was really stressed for this belly bubba being left out and lonely... I was already thinking of how to convince DH to go for a fourth just so this one is not alone...
    Now I'm starting to feel positive for the gap... Especially since DS will start school just before this Bub is born... DD and this one will have more one on one time together...
    I feel like I'll need 4 kids if our gap is bigger between #2 and #3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    Thanks for starting this thread. I have 20 months between 1 and 2 and was aiming for similar with number 3.
    Unfortunately 2 years TTC has meant the age gap between 2 and 3 will be 3 and a half years...I was really stressed for this belly bubba being left out and lonely... I was already thinking of how to convince DH to go for a fourth just so this one is not alone...
    Now I'm starting to feel positive for the gap... Especially since DS will start school just before this Bub is born... DD and this one will have more one on one time together...
    Just wanted to let you know I think personality plays a part - not necessarily age. I was closest to my eldest brother and we were 4 years apart. My brother who was 18 months older - well we did not get on at all growing up!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mamasupial View Post
    I feel like I'll need 4 kids if our gap is bigger between #2 and #3
    Same lol I hate uneven numbers too

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    My sibs are 1-2 2.5yr gap, 2-3 5.5yr gap, 3-4 2.5yr gap, 4-5 2yr gap

    I loved being older when #3 was born. Myself and #2 get on well now but hated each other when we were growing up. #2+3 didn't get along when growing up but do now. #3,4 and 5 all get along great although #5 being the only boy did mean that #3+4 did gang up on him at times.

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    This was our plan, unfortunately life had other ideas and we will have a 4.5 year age gap despite actively TTC from when DS was 1.
    Thank you @Barnaby for posting, this gives me hope! A few people have commented that the age gap is 'too much' - DS is SO excited to be a big brother and with HG this time around I am thankful that he can dress himself/toilet himself/is at school etc. especially as DH is working away during the week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by michellead View Post
    This was our plan, unfortunately life had other ideas and we will have a 4.5 year age gap despite actively TTC from when DS was 1.
    Thank you @Barnaby for posting, this gives me hope! A few people have commented that the age gap is 'too much' - DS is SO excited to be a big brother and with HG this time around I am thankful that he can dress himself/toilet himself/is at school etc. especially as DH is working away during the week.
    Congratulations!!

    I honestly wouldn't worry about the gap. I think it is more dependent on personalities, my ds1 is a very caring and gentle boy who adores his siblings and my dd looks up to her big brother and thinks he hung the moon. They play so nicely and because of the gap there isnt as much arguing/competition. They share a room (by choice) and really truly love each other. I could go on for days about the positives.

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