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    Default So mad!!! (Vent)

    My daughters father is pretty uninvolved in her life, he's never had her alone for visits, only rings maybe every 3-6months for a 2 second chat and doesn't even remember what school she goes to. The only thing he 'contributes' is child support except he DOESN'T PAY IT!!!!! It's freaking $18p/w (currently). I don't know why he doesn't pay, child support can't give me any answers. He owes me $2k in unpaid child support. I never ask for this money from him because it's pointless. Anyways I was just FB stalking and discovered he's just been on a big holiday with his gf! I'm so so mad he 'can' afford to do that but 'can't' afford to pay his child support! Arghhhhhh!!!! Just needed to vent I wish child support agency actually did more to collect!

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    That's disgraceful form on his part

    I would be fuming too.

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    Surely there's more the agency should be doing!

    Can you personally get a debt collection agency to demand the money from him? That way it could go on his credit history which could impact his ability to get loans, mobile phone contracts etc?

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Surely there's more the agency should be doing!

    Can you personally get a debt collection agency to demand the money from him? That way it could go on his credit history which could impact his ability to get loans, mobile phone contracts etc?
    Thanks ladies, it's so frustrating

    I don't know A-Squared, that's a good point, I'll look into it! It's definitely unfair they can get away without paying their child support 'bill' with no consequences, if he didn't pay his phone bill it would effect his credit rating!! Grr!

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    My MIL has the same issues. The father has paid a total of $27 in the last 6 years but his profile picture is of him standing next to a brand new commodore he bought. Child support doesn't really do anything. They set court dates and he just says he can't attend that day and that's it.

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    I hear you my CS went from $1200 to $1100 to $$900 to $300 to $450 now it's $112. This is all monthly figures.

    Ex works always has but he's decided to say now he doesn't even though he does and I can prove it. All they have to do is ring the employer which they are legally allowed to do it just takes 2 months on paperwork and giving him a chance to prove he doesn't work.

    If you haven't got him garnished by the courts then he has to pay out the goodness of his heart. Get onto CSA on Monday and ask them to start an investigation. I've been told they get 2 strikes for refusal to pay then their suppose to start to take automatically even if unemployed it'll come from their Centrelink

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    I found that constantly being on csa back gets their butt into action. I would ring at least once a week until they got on to the ex. Ring more if you have to, don't let it just be put on the back burner.

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    He's a subcontractor so I suppose he can hide what he earns? I just feel like CSA always say they're doing everything they can but clearly they aren't! It's just such a joke!! I'll start calling them more often, see if anything happens!

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    I've zero experience in cs but I'm so sorry this pathetic weasel can't even cough up $18 a week. that's absolutely disgusting.

    can csa not use his social media activities against him? like if you're a pauper according to the ATO because you've lodged tax return that claim a low taxable income, but then there's lifestyle evidence to the contrary (eg expensive cars, fabulous vacations etc), they can call this question. surely the csa should be able to do the same?

    like $18 is so measly you know it's not even about the money. he's refusing to pay to prove a point. honestly, men like this should be bashed. I'm so sorry for you and your daughter.

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    I am mad for you too. And all the parents who put up with douches of exes.

    Your child is a part of you. How can you discard a part of yourself and not care. And not visit. And not provide money to help raise your own child.

    I also thought that people cannot travel if they owe CSA? Or is it over a certain amount?

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