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    Hi all. Is it okay if I join in? I am about to embark on IVF again and may be in need of some "not so serious" vents. I have looked back already and I will not be posting pics of my childhood haircuts. I would frighten you all right off the bat. Hope it's okay to butt in
    Welcome :-) Vent/chat/share away!

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    Quote Originally Posted by pointless1 View Post
    As someone who has had DS taken out of my care by DHS because I can't give him the home he deserves right now I am feeling sickened by the blame being directed at Tiahleigh's biological mother for what that poor girl endured. Really wish people would engage their brain before speaking sometimes
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    Yesterday. I have pool crèche booking at 9:15. DS2 sleeps until 9:30am, I miss swim squad. So today I book gym crèche for 10:30. It's 10:40 and DS2 is still asleep. I can not make this work!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnygirl79 View Post
    Yesterday. I have pool crèche booking at 9:15. DS2 sleeps until 9:30am, I miss swim squad. So today I book gym crèche for 10:30. It's 10:40 and DS2 is still asleep. I can not make this work!!
    I am an evil mother and would wake my kids if I had something planned. I used to get to the gym half an hour early, bf and setlle bubs, and then go and exercise. In theend I found it easier to go at 6am and deal with less sleep.
    I never hesitated waking my babies if we needed to go though. I would have driven myself crazy if I tried to live my life around their unpredictable sleep patterns.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    I am an evil mother and would wake my kids if I had something planned. I used to get to the gym half an hour early, bf and setlle bubs, and then go and exercise. In theend I found it easier to go at 6am and deal with less sleep.
    I never hesitated waking my babies if we needed to go though. I would have driven myself crazy if I tried to live my life around their unpredictable sleep patterns.
    I was in tears earlier because he just wouldn't sleep and was soooo overtired and worked up. It's just not worth it for me. I can't leave a baby in the crèche screaming and it's near impossible to calm him when he gets worked up. Then I pay for it the rest of the day as he doesn't recover.

    When he was younger I used to get there early and BF him before leaving him and he would happily sleep in the pram. But right now he is too distracted, won't feed in public, won't sleep in public, and is mortified when I leave him with anyone (early separation anxiety arghhh).

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnygirl79 View Post
    I was in tears earlier because he just wouldn't sleep and was soooo overtired and worked up. It's just not worth it for me. I can't leave a baby in the crèche screaming and it's near impossible to calm him when he gets worked up. Then I pay for it the rest of the day as he doesn't recover.

    When he was younger I used to get there early and BF him before leaving him and he would happily sleep in the pram. But right now he is too distracted, won't feed in public, won't sleep in public, and is mortified when I leave him with anyone (early separation anxiety arghhh).
    What time does your DH leave/get home? Could you go then and leave bubs with him?

    It's hard if they have separation anxiety. My DD had it bad as a toddler. She spent maybe 18 months just wanting to be on or near me, All. The. Time. And as someone who likes their personal space, I struggled with no alone time. Luckily she was always happy to go to DC, so I had one day a week to get stuff done and get a tiny bit of me time. But she's now a happy and outgoing 4yo, who still needs a lot of physical affection/touch/attention from me, but is happy to play by herself and loves going to school.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnygirl79 View Post
    I was in tears earlier because he just wouldn't sleep and was soooo overtired and worked up. It's just not worth it for me. I can't leave a baby in the crèche screaming and it's near impossible to calm him when he gets worked up. Then I pay for it the rest of the day as he doesn't recover.

    When he was younger I used to get there early and BF him before leaving him and he would happily sleep in the pram. But right now he is too distracted, won't feed in public, won't sleep in public, and is mortified when I leave him with anyone (early separation anxiety arghhh).
    In that case I'd change times completely...go early if that works, or exercise later in the day when your DH is home from work. Even now I still find it easier to exercise early morning than trying to fit it in at other times, which sees me setting my alarm as early as 4.30am sometimes (if I am on a 7am start). For me it was about deciding that exercising was important enough for me to fit it in my day. I had to make sacrifices to achieve it, but it was worth it for me. I was a much happier mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Californication View Post
    What time does your DH leave/get home? Could you go then and leave bubs with him?

    It's hard if they have separation anxiety. My DD had it bad as a toddler. She spent maybe 18 months just wanting to be on or near me, All. The. Time. And as someone who likes their personal space, I struggled with no alone time. Luckily she was always happy to go to DC, so I had one day a week to get stuff done and get a tiny bit of me time. But she's now a happy and outgoing 4yo, who still needs a lot of physical affection/touch/attention from me, but is happy to play by herself and loves going to school.
    DH travels for work so unfortunately it's not possible most days. That and DS2 needs BFing around 4am and 6am and I have DS1 to tend to in the mornings as well. Hopefully when DS2 is about older/sleeping better/not so reliant on the boob I can get DH to help out when he is home.

    I think we are just going through a rough patch. I could go to the gym after dinner (when DH is home) once DS1 is in bed as I usually have 1-2 hours before DS2 wakes and needs a BF around 9pm but TBH it's the only time I get without kids all day, and I am usually way to exhausted to contemplate exercise by then.

    Thankfully the ladies at the gym crèche are incredibly understanding and didn't charge me for the cancellation. It was the last morning this week I have free so I will see if MIL might be able to give me an hour one afternoon this week (gym crèche is only in mornings). I feel really bad asking for help all the time though, especially when it's so I can just go to the gym.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    In that case I'd change times completely...go early if that works, or exercise later in the day when your DH is home from work. Even now I still find it easier to exercise early morning than trying to fit it in at other times, which sees me setting my alarm as early as 4.30am sometimes (if I am on a 7am start). For me it was about deciding that exercising was important enough for me to fit it in my day. I had to make sacrifices to achieve it, but it was worth it for me. I was a much happier mother.
    DH is basically FIFO and not home in the afternoons so if I can't get into the morning crèche I miss out. And DS2 is a terrible sleeper I am usually BFing 4-4:30am and again at 6am (at which time DS1 wakes and wants my attention). Going to the gym between 4:30-6am isn't going to happen atm as I really need that hour's sleep (averaging 4-5 hours a night, just not enough for me).

    I absolutely agree it's worth prioritising exercise, which is why I try and try again. But it feels like the world is laughing at me for being so stupid as to try do something for myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnygirl79 View Post
    DH is basically FIFO and not home in the afternoons so if I can't get into the morning crèche I miss out. And DS2 is a terrible sleeper I am usually BFing 4-4:30am and again at 6am (at which time DS1 wakes and wants my attention). Going to the gym between 4:30-6am isn't going to happen atm as I really need that hour's sleep (averaging 4-5 hours a night, just not enough for me).

    I absolutely agree it's worth prioritising exercise, which is why I try and try again. But it feels like the world is laughing at me for being so stupid as to try do something for myself.
    Utilise your MIL then. She'd probably love the time with her grandkids...it's not 'just exercise,' it's one of the best things you can do for your health. I just had a week off exercise last week (just felt I needed a break), by the end of the week I had stopped sleeping well, I had become really lazy in day to day stuff (lack of motivation), my eating was not good (as I wouldn't want breakfast until late, which had a knock on effect for the rest of the day), and my toilet habits had changed. Ask your MIL if she'll have the kids three times a week for an bour and a half while you go exercise while your DS is in this phase and your DH isn't home to help. The worst she'll say is no.


 

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