@Billie2 "most fertiles" love it!!!
@Caesardust I see you deleted your post after I read it. We're Warrior Women. We can multitask and support two of our gorgeous women on the same day. I imagine @Charlie74 feels like throwing up with nerves today and I can only imagine how angry you are with your frozen embryo result. Spending at least $15k and only ending up with two embryos is bloody unfair. Even if they have implanted () it's still incredibly disappointing. So much work and stress goes into an O/S fresh cycle. I know it sounds ruthless but you paid $15k you should have ended up with more than two embryos. Do you think your Super would allow you to draw down another $12k if you needed a plan B. I know I should be encouraging you to just enjoy the second week or your 2ww but I also appreciate the reality of the situation you've found yourself in and that having a plan B can help ease some of that anxiety. Lovely @ECM1981 would also be compassionate. She had pretty much the same result on her last fresh cycle.
thinking of you @Caesardust. @Tahli is right that its ok to be angry and sad etc whilst on the same day someone else will hopefully be celebrating. Its what this thread is all about so please don't feel bad. You have absolutely every reason to be upset, its my one biggest fear actually with doing DE only we will be transferring one (all gone well) so it will be a similar gamble with perhaps less chance of working. It scares me sh!tless frankly! The money side of it makes the gamble VERY real. I hear ya. All I can say is that maybe just taking one day at a time until you know the outcome is all you can do and then take it from there once you know what you're dealing with. i hope with every ounce of my heart that this will be your take home baby, I really do.
Thank you you beautiful ladies. You have all made me cry. All my conceptions were natural so I am still hoping that we can still do it but we aren't putting our lives on hold, investing more money or thinking about it.
I will still be here cheering you on.
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@Caesardust I didnt get to see your post but wanted to say that you are allowed to be angry and upset. I would be furious and frustrated. @gorgeousgeorge taught me that its ok to feel how you feel and not force an emotion. Its ok to be filthy angry if things don't go how we wished. Especially with the impact it has on our life financially, emotionally and socially. I hope you are truly blessed with good news, and a baby or two.
@Caesardust, I didn't see your earlier post either but I think any feelings of disappointment or anger are justified, even if (WHEN!) your two little embies do stick! Honestly, we spend so much money on donor egg cycles and $15K is a lot in anyone's mind. I know for us, when we count in flights and meals and meds and accommodation etc we are looking at dropping around $24K into this last cycle. If I walked away with no frosties - and please, I don't mean to sound ungrateful because my donor is THE BOMB! - but I would be so upset.
As recipients we KNOW that our donor's have no more control over their cycles than we ever did, and I wouldn't ever be mad at my donor. But it's ok to be mad at the universe! We borrowed a lot of money for this cycle, we'll be paying it back for the next seven years, and in all honesty....to hope for one or maybe even two in the freezer is not that unreasonable.
So to you gorgeous girl, I am really sorry that didn't happen for you. It's not fair. Hopefully your two on board will stick and alleviate some of that pain for you though
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