Thanks your right and i love your post.
I just had a thought really that if it was something else (not IVF related) and you were comparing it I'll use the olympics again where you train your guts out for 4 years with a team then go to an olympics and everyone else in your team gets gold and you come last. BUT you pick yourself up dust yourself off and start training again then go to the next olympics and same deal you get last and everyone else gets first and some get first again two olympics in a row so they quit and go off into retirement; then times that by ten olympics but you miss a few of them due to breaking your leg in training so they pull you out and then well yes I'd be pretty bloody well fed up with it all. I don't think most people would be able to do it (the olympics version).
That's kind of how I feel really.