Ah geez @BlondeinBrisvegas that's just hard work! what a pain in the a.r.se. Have a stiff drink and knock yourself out for the night. Enjoy baking DDs cake, something fun to look forward to and focus on.
@Blossom74 that all sounds like a good plan, I'm sure it'll all come together when they get you sorted with a proper plan. Great that you stuck to your guns too