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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    At risk of derailing the thread I might feel differently if I had boys. As horrible as it sounds, I'd be more worried if they didn't find/couldn't get a decent paying job. Whilst I will strongly encourage my girls to be financially independent, I think males have a tougher time in life if they have lower paid jobs or jobs without financial stability.
    It's funny you say that as DH is more adamant about uni than I am for that reason - he didn't go to uni but wished he did , we have our own business and are doing fine but he still wishes he'd done something different and more stable

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    Of course some do work hard- but a majority sit around not really doing anything. It's a huge adjustment from high school as tafe and Uni are very different and so is high school.

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    I will encourage my kids to go. But I would encourage them to think seriously about their future career paths and best way of achieving that.

    I loved going to uni. It exposed me to a different way of thinking, new people to socialise with and as I moved to the city from the country I learnt to become independent. While I regret maybe what I studied (Bachelors of Laws/Arts), I don't regret going. I was academic and there was nothing else I wanted to do. I now have a well paying job, I enjoy what I do most of the time and while having a degree wasn't a prerequisite to my current degree it certainly helped.

    Now if it's clear that's not their thing and they would rather do an apprenticeship, I'd encourage them to pursue that.

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    Also on another note, both DH and I come from families whose parents never went to uni. I think the highest education is his mother with a year 12 cert and my dad is trade qualified. I know my parents worked really hard to send me to uni, give me the opportunities and encourage me to go. No one had really gone to uni before in my family, except for my aunt who was a mature age accounting student. It was a really big deal when I graduated.

    I know DH'S family was similar.

    I'm really very grateful.

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    I'll 100% encourage all 3of my children to get a proper qualification in their chosen career - be that university, tafe or trade

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    I don't think Uni is a necessary thing. It's a means to an end imo. DH and I are teachers so we both have a degree. Had we wanted to do something trade related then that would have been the path. That's how I feel about my kids. Doing something you love matters - work life is long. Life itself is short.

    The money thing is interesting to think about. DH and I work at an averagely priced (relatively) private school. It's not an elite school. Most of the wealthy families we have are successful tradies - builders, plumbers etc who own their own businesses. Yes there are engineers etc but many, many tradies. Some of these people are earning a lot more than DH and I as teachers (with our uni degrees).

    It depends on the child too. DS (10) is very academic and is already looking up Uni courses!! 😱. DD will probably run away with the circus 😂.

    You get my point - I think there's no use in going to uni if you're not driven to be there.

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    I don't think uni is completely necessary but having some qualifications are handy (tafe/uni/apprenticeship).
    DH & I both went to university & we will encourage our kids to do further study in whatever field they choose. I really enjoyed my 4 years at uni (but I am fairly academically minded). I also was 1st in Dad's family to ever get a Bachelor level degree which was pretty big for him to see. Mum went to uni so for her, us going to uni was important too.

    And in my work (finance), qualifications are highly regarded if you want to progress into management.


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    I worry about this too being a single mum. I worry my kids won't get a choice to buy in this market if they ever choose to live around here. My plan was to have saved enough money for a deposit for an investment property for my kids to share by the time my boy is 12. I don't want my kids to stress as much as young adults seem to atm about getting into the property market. However, I don't think my children having a Uni degree is necessary as long as they have a trade and any associated quals. I wouldn't want them however to choose to do a Diploma if there was a higher ed degree in their chosen field unless they were unable to get into uni as their first option and built upon their Diploma. I want my daughter to be just as financially independent as her brother and always maintain her financial independence. In saying that, I have started teaching my kids about money and how to make more using their current resources. My son up cycles items and sells them on buy, sell, swap pages and he sells potted plants that he's grown. I think it's important to instil that you don't always need to work harder when you can work smarter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    Wow ok. ! My daughter is in Uni as a first year and she certainly doesn't spend her days drinking coffee and socialising. She works hard, does extra readings and goes in early to go to the library. She got Distinctions in all her 1st semester units. She works damn hard !
    Don't worry about it. I never worked at uni between lectures/tuts...so I would have looked like I was doing nothing but socialising. But, I averaged spending 60 hours a week studying for my degree, more than half of my marks were HD's, and I graduated with distinction. I don't think what people do at uni is representative of the effort it takes to obtain a uni degree. I'm positive most people know that you have to put in decent effort to obtain a degree. If it was as easy as socialising and wasting time, more people would have degrees. Congrats to your daughter on her great marks 😀

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    University is only important if what you want to do requires a degree! My DP hasn't got formal qualifications, he only did part of the building apprenticeship, then went into plastering, largely self taught (or on the job training). He's now been a plasterer for 20 years and earns $45/hour if he charges hourly rates. He's very good at what he does and has never been out of work despite never advertising. I'm sure there's jobs out there that require a degree that don't earn that hourly rate (and of course plenty that do earn more). Really depends what you want to do.

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