Just curious as to how other sahm's feel about being financially dependent on your spouse? It's only started worrying me in the last few years when things aren't so good with dp. It's been 9 years. It wasn't really planned to last this long. I hadn't a sparkling career before kids but never had any issues finding work so when we could afford for me to take time out and dp was happy with that situation I went with the flow. Moving to aus meant leaving my job so no job to go back to. I looked for part time roles years ago but with no family here and all childcare arrangements falling to me I didn't see any value in just taking any old job and putting my kids into long days in care for no money and no real job potential. Not sure if that makes sense? Now I know I need to study or retrain in some way. If I didn't feel so insecure I would probably just do some free online courses and maybe volunteer for the next 3 years until ms2 starts school but I'm starting to feel really vulnerable that I've become so financially dependent. I'm 43 too so that plays on my mind too. A teacher at my daughters school just retired at 60 which makes me wonder how realistic it is to plan to start a new career when I'm 50!?!