From personal experience I hated induction, I don't know any better because that was my first but the drip was intense, I didn't have a natural build up to labor it was just nothing one minute, agonizing pain the next, I didn't have a choice as I was 41 + 6.
At the time my DH was working 4hrs away and was on call for if anything happened because we needed the cash, funnily enough they gave him 2 weeks of at my due date, he was there for the birth but had to go back two days after ha.
It's really tough, I totally understand the need for finances to come in and it makes the decision impossible.
Mine didn't lead to further intervention, they talked about forceps and that gave me a bit of a second wind and I pushed like crazy to get that kid out without them. And really as painful as it was it was over, I would always avoid it in future but know I can survive it.
Thanks for all the feedback ladies. I still don't feel any closer to knowing what I want to do. Hopefully Bub takes the decision out of my hands. Lots of BH this arvo but that doesn't mean much.
Not advice really but just some hope. My first was 11 days overdue and I was induced with the gel and was fortunate that for me it started a relatively typical labour.
With my second I was concerned I'd go overdue as well which was undesirable as DH was overseas and my parents and sister had flown up for the birth and I didn't want to cut things too fine with dates.
But what do you know, a stretch and sweep the morning before her due date and less than 24 hours later I had her in my arms after she arrived exactly on her due date. No induction required although I'd been booked in for the following day.
Best wishes :-)
I would opt for a stretch and sweep to help things along, hopefully that's all you need. As for an induction, I would wait it out until the last possibly chance before DP is going away. Inductions can sometimes lead to c/s and obviously you would want to avoid that with DP going away and not being able to help out.
Personally I wouldn't induce for non-medical reasons before 42 weeks. But you know all about ds' birth and that I come from a perspective of keeping it as low intervention as possible.
Essentially your choice is:
1. Be induced and dp there for the birth but away for 5 days while you manage with a toddler & newborn.
2. Wait and potentially not have dp at the birth.
Neither are ideal really.
Last edited by AdornedWithCats; 19-08-2016 at 20:26.
I think I'm leaning towards not getting induced and letting DP decide what he wants to do. I could change my mind though lol
It's a tough one. I would wait until 41 weeks and then decide. will that give you enough time to book an induction or for you DH to cancel the trip?
I was induced with #1 and #2 and the experiences were very different. I was 41 weeks with #1 and 40+4 with #2 (I think).. Ds1 was a relatively good experience but after ds2 I'm going to do whatever I can to avoid an induction this time.
Both inductions were with gel, and I had AROM with ds2. Both ended up with drug-free labours but my 2nd one was very traumatic and Bub was in distress. After he was born I noticed scratches on his scalp from AROM and he had scarring from that for months until hair grew over it. I also really had to fight the midwife to avoid any further intervention. It was pretty awful and if you're after a water birth or a natural birth, you might not get either with an induction. I think I was lucky the first time around.
Good luck with your decision!
3 of my 4 were induced
So for me I would go with getting induced :-)
I was induced and loved it. Mine was straight forward. I understand your partner not wanting to cancel of this is his career you are talking about and I wouldn't make him cancel. U can always video the birth. My mum had 2 babies while dad worked away and was fine because he needed to work away at that time.
Depends how you take it deep down him not being there. If you are going to feel hurt and hold it against him then tell him that as the truth and let him decide..
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