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    I'm really sorry you are going through this, you clearly love him a lot and are hurting so much

    But from someone not emotionally involved in this, it seems clear he has been planning this for a while, starting with the decision to work away when he didn't need to. It sounds like you have bent over backwards to please him. I know it's really hard, but stop calling him , and certainly stop begging him to take you back. While break ups are rarely 100%/0% blame, his behaviour towards you has been appalling and it's him that should be begging for your forgiveness. Don't give him that power.

    Who cares for the child he has 50/50 custody of when he's gone all week? You I'm assuming? To say he doesn't care if you both don't see each other's kids is really horrible. I don't want to preempt or upset you, but be prepared there maybe some admitting or evidence of cheating. The comment he has become close friends with the girls, coupled with his past of cheating come across as him edging towards revealing someone has happened.

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    Yeah I was thinking he's already got someone new which is why he's being so horrible.

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    How are you holding up OP?

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    Hey thanks everyone

    I am doing better than this morning.. I put my claim in to centrelink

    He sent me a message asking if I wanted to stay in the house or move out... its rented .

    He wanted to know what custody I wanted.. I repliedband asked him what he wanted. He said every second weekend and one wednesday a fortnight for dinner.

    I am worried though that if he goes with him that I wont get him back.. that is definitely something his mum would get him to do.

    Also I was the one looking after his kids every second week ...

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    I have decided I dont want to go back. My girls seem excited to have their own rooms

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    So good to hear you sounding more upbeat and in control. You're a strong woman!

    If you're concerned about him not bringing your DS back after contact the. Get the ball rolling on parenting orders. It's been a while for me so I'm out of touch with the steps but I'd be giving legal aid a call first thing Monday morning.

    I know there's lots of thread on these issues in the single parents area - it would be worth a look and a chat to all the amazing single mummas on here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by emmiejayne View Post
    I have decided I dont want to go back. My girls seem excited to have their own rooms


    Good on you!! I was a single mum for a few years and it was hard but better being on your own with your children loving you then being in a dead end relationship. I know you are grieving at the moment but yes like a PP said, you are a strong lady.

    And even though you are in no position right now, there will be someone who will love you for who you are, who will clip their own toenails...hold your head up high!

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    thanks ladies xx

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    Omg why do my emotions keep going crazy .. one minute I feel fine.. the next I am in tears because I want him back.. im so lost without him

    Deep down I know I can be happier without him.. but the thought of being alone and doing everything by myself scares the crap out of me

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    Because emotions and break ups are a bish honey. You will be all over the place for a long time yet. Every time you feel yourself waiver step back and remember the pain he has caused you.

    You'll be ok, in fact better than ok. Hang in there xx


 

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