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    My fiance of 5yrs has been away training for work for the last 8 weeks... coming home weekends.

    We have a child together... I also have 2 children from a previous marriage as does he. (50%.of.time with us)

    Things have been tense with us for a while... he told me before he got thos job that him and I were no longer friends.

    When he got the job he could habe done training 45mins away.. but he chose to do it 2 hours away.

    When he left.. I asked him that since we werent friends could he not become friends with the other females in the class until we become friends again... He agreed and said that was fine.

    He hasnt made any effort and i felt so unloved... but i kept trying to think it would get better.. I would do anything for him..

    He cheated on me at the start of our relationship.. so things have always been tough.

    Last night I had a bad night with the kids and called him at around 1145pm.. he lost it and told me to f off and turned off his phone.

    I sent him a few textsnand then get one this morning to say we were done. I begged him for another chance.and he said ok. Then he called before starting work... i said have good day I love you ... and he replied yeah f off.

    So I decided to drive to where he was and talk to him when he finished work. He then came and met me at a park with the kids and didn't speak besides telling me it was over.

    We argued as we walked back to the car and then I sat in his car and didn't get out. He proceeded to tell me that he does talk to all of the women in his class and is pretty good friends with one of them

    I had to drive home 2hrs whoch took almost 4hrs because I was.so upset. What have I done ?

    I cant sleep.. I feelsick.. I have broken my family

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    Oh darling you haven't broken your family. Nothing I can say will take away the pain and shock of what is happening right now BUT please know YOU have not broken anything.

    He is being very unkind right now to you and sound like a right *******. I know it feels so overwhelming right at this moment but just try to breath and take each minute one at a time. Don't think about tomorrow or the day after - just one minute at a time.

    Huge hugs xx

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    He called me a controlling crazy bit&*

    I just want to leave and run away and hide from everything.

    He has been the only one I have truely loved.

    How am I ever going to get through this

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    Our little boy isnt quite 3 and adores his dad.. what have I done to him now

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    Your little boy and your other children will be ok - you will always be there for them and what your DS's dad does will be up to him but you DS will be ok.

    Please try not to blame yourself for this it is so trite but it takes 2 to make a relationship work. I know there's so much more but it sounds like you've tried to give your son's dad some space. Just remember he chose to work so far away when he didn't have to - his chose sees him spending less time with you, your family and his son. Presumably with his other child/children as well.

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    You will get through just one moment at a time.

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    Hugs. You must be feeling awful. You haven't done this. He is being horrible, creating a doubt in you about your relationship and then treating you badly. Can I suggest you contact a Women's Service near you to talk this through. Understanding what he is doing will give you a healthier perspective. I'm sorry this is happening 💓🌷💓

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    Quote Originally Posted by binnielici View Post
    Your little boy and your other children will be ok - you will always be there for them and what your DS's dad does will be up to him but you DS will be ok.

    Please try not to blame yourself for this it is so trite but it takes 2 to make a relationship work. I know there's so much more but it sounds like you've tried to give your son's dad some space. Just remember he chose to work so far away when he didn't have to - his chose sees him spending less time with you, your family and his son. Presumably with his other child/children as well.
    He has a very controlling mother who likes to butt in with everything... sonone of his kids lives with her full time and the other isnwith us 50/50.

    He said something pretty hurtful.. he said
    I dont care if you see my kids ever again and I dont care if I see yours.

    His kids are like my own.. of course I want to see them

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    For now I would stop talking to him. I know that's hard but he is being very hurtful right now. You don't need it.

    Just close him off until you can yourself into a better head space.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spincycle View Post
    Hugs. You must be feeling awful. You haven't done this. He is being horrible, creating a doubt in you about your relationship and then treating you badly. Can I suggest you contact a Women's Service near you to talk this through. Understanding what he is doing will give you a healthier perspective. I'm sorry this is happening 💓🌷💓
    He comes home on weekends and barely speaks.. I try to do everything to make.him happy... he asked me to cut his nails and gice him a footrub... so I dropped everything and did it.

    How do.I get in contact with them?


 

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