@Billie2 That cake is flippin' hilarious!! Love it. Those boys will be thrilled lol. Love your Tux Pup too, omg what a sweet couple he and my kitty would make..that would be very cute
@Heyside I totally forgot your embie was a PGD normal, so its extra sh!tty, it really is. Im so sorry, I can only imagine how much more pressure there is when thats the case and I totally understand the numbness thing, thats always me too. @gorgeousgeorges advice sounds good to me, book your appointment and then just take some time to heal yourself, moving on to any next step is a process and doesn't just happen overnight so it may just be that you need some time to know what it is you need to do. I guess thats been our experience with moving to de, we knew a few months after a BFN that we wanted to do it but hadn't actively been talking about it.
Take care and get yourself a nice bottle of something tonight. big hugs xxx
So got the sentence call and I'm half dead right now:
Out of 10, 6 were mature and only one fertilised.
In shock. Fertility rate hasn't been our issue so far, can't believe that it's adding to the list.
Now. I'm facing a huge dilemma: the plan was to push them to Day5 to see what happens. The nurse asked me what I want to do considering I have only one. I didnt chicken out and said day5.
But now I'm having doubts... The whole point of pushing till day5 was to " study " them, is one representative though?
DF wants day5 cos he thinks that if the embie doesnt make it in the dish, it would be the same inside me. And so he doesnt want me to be on crinone and go through the emotional 2ww for nothing.
Me... I'm a mess. I can't think.
I know it's a personal decision but I d like your inputs about day3 vs day5 transfer in case of one embryo only?
Pros and cons?
No matter what my choice is, I just need to be convinced it is the right one. No regrets.
Thank you in advance for your thoughts
****e LillyM I'm sorry to hear this news. Today is turning out to be a crock of **** day on here all round.
I don't really know what to say to you as I have always done day 5 transfers. My clinics have never offered me day 3 ones. I understand though why you might choose to go that way if you have only one embryo.
I guess my opinion is conflicted as I know some opinions are that embryos can and do do better in uterus. Which is why some clinics do day 3 transfers. I also get where DH is coming from as well with his theory.
I really think you just have to take it one day at a time. Do they offer you daily reports on your embryo with your clinic? Will they update you tomorrow?
@LillyM Everyone is getting a serve of poo cake today. Im so sorry and angry for you. It doesnt make any sense. No rules in IVF you once said to me and that is so true. I dont know. I sent you a message. Remove your heart and make the decision with your head. Base your decision on no regrets.. xxxxxx
@LillyM oh lilly, im so sorry :-( You know, my stats just got worse, the more i cycled. Started off getting blasties, and frosties, 75% fertilisation first cycle, but then each cycle things got worse. I wish i understood why. Sigh...
I totally understand your day 3 /day 5 dilema. Last cycle when i had 1 emby on day 2, i was all tough n just told them grow it to day 5 because id rather it die in the dish. But an hour later i chickened out and rang them back n went in the next day for a day 3 transfer.
Its so so hard. Such a mind fruck. I do actually believe what they say about the dish being just as good as the womb. Im personally not a believer in the 'better in than out' theory because fs and embryologists are scientists and they wouldnt do the day 5 thing if science showed in utero was better.
I believe that if its a good healthy strong golden emby it will grow in the dish till day 5 and it would do the same in utero.
I dont know if this helps and its a bit morbid but... i ended up deciding that if my little emby was gonna die, then i thought id like to give it a more natural death, by letting it die inside me, rather than being thrown in the bin or whatever it is they do with our little deceased maybe-babies. My other deciding factor was that, as i have to travel for et, i got the day off work, had the et then had the rest of the day as a 'me day'. Went to bunnings, bought seedlings n played in my garden which was better than being at work, scared that my phone would ring and ruin my day.
I believe whatever you decide to do, it wont affect the embryo so you won't make the 'wrong' decision. There is no 'wrong' thing to decide.
Sometimes when i have yo choise between 2 s h i t t y options, i think about how i would feel after taking each option. So maybe thinking, what would be worse for you personally: waiting to day 5, maybe learning something and maybe not having et, wondering if you had have put it in day 3 it might have worked (but i dont believe that rationally/scientifically) OR doing a day 3 and suffering the tww.
They are both s h i t t y options mate and im so sorry you have yo pick one of them.
Maybe ask fs about whether 1 emby is representative and see what he thinks you should do?
I really feel for you, to go from 10eggs to 1emby in one phone call would be devastating. xoxoxox
@LillyM im sorry to hear your news. Ive previously done mainly d3 and d2 transfers. Yes if they dont survive till d5 then they wouldnt have survived but the way i looked at it was you never know. My clinic mainly did d3 transfers as i get low embie numbers. My fs thought sometimes they were better in than out. Xxx
Far out, yep it's a sh-itty day all round isn't it? So sorry to hear about your BFN @Heyside, it never gets easier... I hope you do take some time out to regroup & settle before having to make any new decisions. @Lilym that is bad news & you would have thought from 10 that at least half would have made it. I can't offer any advice but huge hugs xx
So to top off today, I just started getting the first pink tinge of AF & thinking about that tiny speck of an embryo who died before she really had a chance to start - & I log on to FB & DHs cousin has a birth announcement. First go trying, honeymoon baby, little girl they named Savannah which was on our names list.
I asked DH to call them & congratulate them from work so I don't have to hear him gush about it. He gets so excited over babies & right now I just can't face hearing that :-(
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