I haven't thought about a baby shower. we did talk about names and future life/plans and where we'd live etc. I'd started looking at some little books/stories but not clothes/toys. I guess we'll see how we feel if/once this next cycle works.
welcome @pkgjmg - good luck with your frosties on board & congrats on being PUPO. sounds promising
Do you all know I have never been to a baby shower. I detest the thought of them. I avoid them like the plague. They had one at work once so I threw a sick day on the day they had it.
If I get invited to them. FYI I don't anymore but when I did I made up excuses. I'm a bit like that now. I avoid anything baby related. It makes it much easier to not have to deal with insensitive people who treat my infertility like the black plague but expect me to treat their pregnancy or baby news like it's gospel. I've put up big huge walls to keep those people away from me. I actually found it easier as the years rolled by. No one asks me anymore about IVF. They used to back when I started. I'm not even going to work ATM I'm on 12 months career break. And I absolutely love it.
@Charlie74 I am going to be crossing everything and looking up to the heavens thinking of you at 10;15 tomorrow. This has been a long time coming and I can imagine the anxiety you have. I've been there and it's scary real. It's gotta have worked it just has to have xoxo
@Tahli and @Calypso also yes let's organise another catch up. I really would love to have a good chat again with you all when I'm back.
Baby showers. Well I've only been to a couple. One for a friend, my sil and one at work. They were pretty tame but they were still hard. I think I'd still have one but definitely no games. I think that's just really odd to be honest. I'd prefer all of the warrior women there though than most other people I know.
@pkgjmg - Welcome hun hope your tww goes smoothly and finishes in a bfp. How amazing would it be to become pregnant from the same cycle as your DD they would be frozen twins. Those symptoms are sounding good hun x
@Maxwellsmum - That's great that you are not feeling the anxiety hun calmness is definitely a good thing. Hope you continue that way and that the craziness doesn't set in xx
@Tahli - Sounds like this op has knocked you around a bit hope that you feel ok reducing the meds x
@Billie2 - Thinking of you hun xx
@BlondeinBrisvegas - Great to hear the time with your ex went ok with no problems hun x
@Charlie74 I can totally understand your fears and anxiety about tomorrow, that's great that your dp is going with you, I've got everything crossed for you that your lining is fabulous
@Tahli I hope you are feeling much better in the coming days, surgery knocks you around that's for sure. Glad your family and ex have stepped in to help out. Look after yourself xx
I was about 32 weeks when We went and bought clothes, I found it really hard to buy clothes, the first time I was on the verge of tears and ended up walking out empty handed.
Interesting conversations today girls and things that I discuss very often with DH often going round in circles. I feel we have also lost the focus of the end goal and a sibling for DD, unfortunately she will never grow up close to a sibling now anyway as she will be at least 6 if we have a second child. Our focus just seems to be cycle after cycle though planning for next steps and how we can change things rather than the delivery of a beautiful bub. Maybe I need to change my mind set which might give me more positivity.
As for the announcements to the world if we ever get there we are not sure where we will go with that. I definitely would want to be considerate of anyone else going through fertility issues and would hate to upset someone. On the other hand I would love to use an announcement if ever we get to have one to show people even after a hard battle the goal can be achieved. Would also try and get it across to other people how considerate people should be when asking women questions about having children and also presuming how easy ivf is, some people have no idea. Not sure how we would get that across.
Baby showers have never been my thing to be honest and I find them an 'American' thing. I personally like to buy the gifts for a bub once it has been born so I definitely wont be having one, again thats my personal opinion. My issues are with other people's baby showers, I have always attended them but I am finding it harder and harder. I have 5 friends and family members all expecting babies over the next month or so its been difficult. I went to a family baby shower a few weeks ago which was pretty low key and managed ok. I have been invited to more of a full on one next week though with games and full on gifts ect but its the day I plan on poas and I have decided its just too much for me on that day so have protected myself and made my apologies.
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Thanks for those ladies that have asked about me today and how my tww is going. I initially had a few cramps but I know that can all be put down to the truck load of progesterone I am on and to be honest even that has stopped today. So not really feeling it to be honest at the moment and I am now 6dp5dt and we even had the discusion of next steps today and where we might go from here. Just had my last pregnyl booster tonight and don't plan on poas until next Sunday just to prepare myself.
@Arianasmum - How is your tww hun x
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