Harvs' post had me thinking... We are doing a joint bday party for my boys. They are turning 3 and 5 (one month apart and 3yr old's bday is practically on my due date, so we kind of don't have a choice about joint party).
Most of the people we will invite will be friends who know both boys and if we had separate parties, they would be invited to both.
But I'll also invite a lot of childcare friends, and the boys are in separate rooms and therefore have different friends.
I don't want people to feel obliged to bring a gift left alone one for each boy. Is there a way to word this on the invite that doesn't sound presumptuous? Or just subtly hints.. Or just have a different invite for each group, so they don't actually know it's joint?
Or should I just not worry about this and leave it up to the parents to do whatever they feel like?