I don't post often but read BH lots. I didn't want to post this in the Single Parent section as id like a wide number of perspectives.
Dd will be with her dad next year for 5/14 nights. When I first started her at daycare she was 10 months old and she has been going consistently for 4 days per week. At that point she was having no overnights and so it didn't affect dad where she went to daycare. I also had limited choices as the closest daycare to us gave her spot to someone else & notified me 4 days before she was due to start.
Anyhow, daycare needs to know if dd is having the same days next year. I've let dad know of their request and have said that he will need to set up an account with daycare to pay for the 2 days per fortnight that he has her in his care whilst he works. Obviously as the primary carer, I get the Childcare rebate. FOB has said he won't put her in those days and will cancel every 2nd week of he has to pay the fees. I reminded him that I won't be able to have those 2 days either if he does that. He's made it clear that he doesn't care. He said he will 'make alternative arrangements' which of course I'm not privy too. He is upset that I get the rebate and he doesn't. Can I share the rebate and if so, surely it would need to be assessed on his income for those two days? He earns 4 times as much as I do and will be paying less Child Support which I understand but surely he should have to pay the daycare fees whilst in his care and allow her to have continuity of care and support her in preparing for school (she will be in a preparing for school class with her friends she has had for years)? It seems if I don't agree to pay, I'm stuffed for my own working week. Or I still pay for the 2 days and let him organise his own care knowing dd will miss out. Not sure if my question has been lost in this partial rant but I'm also venting. Thanks for listening