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    Default Birthday Party Etiquette

    So I have to take my son to a birthday party tomorrow and obviously I am overwhelmed and anxious about it already, but that's ok, we know I can move past that!

    Thing is, it's a joint party for two siblings (4 and 2). DS is friends with the 4 year old. They aren't family friends as such, as in he has no special relationship with the two year old.

    Am I expected to buy a present for each boy? FOB says yes, but then again he is the younger brother.

    I have three options in mind:

    1) main present for friend, card and something little for brother

    2) joint present that the whole family can use

    3) equal presents for both

    What would be expected? What should I do?

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    Not sure what the etiquette is but I'd probably do number 1.

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    I think 1, too. Just something small.

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    What did the invitation say? Did it say "Bill and Ben invite you to their birthday" or "Bill is turning 4. Come and party" and you just happen to know the party is joint?
    Etiquette would say that if the invitation is issued by both, then a gift for both would be appropriate.
    If there is no written invitation then I think option 1 is a nice gesture on your part. Although I doubt anyone would notice if you didn't get younger brother something.
    So... Is FOB paying for these gifts? If not, he doesn't get an opinion

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    I'd do number 1.

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    I'd also do no 1, spend your money on a main present for DS friend and maybe buy a matchbox car and card as a token present for the 2 year old

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    I would buy a game and address it to both

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    Harvs are you coming to our party tomorrow?

    If DS is special friends with one I'd get a present for them and a token something for the little one - if you know that the little one will have special friends their too.

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    Token gift for the 2 year old...I'd go a pack of crayola washable markers for toddlers or similar... $5 and you're home free ☺

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    Option 4: present for 4yr old only

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