Hi lovely world of bh.
Im undercover to ask a question.
My partner does not stop lying. What would you do?
Sometimes its small stuff like 'no i didnt walk on the clean floor with shoes on' but hes standing on said floor, in said shoes.
Me: slow down, you're speeding. (Digital display speedo)
Him: no im not.
****68 in a 60 zone****
Car slows down.
But other times, its big stuff.
Needs to be up early to be shown a new method of something where he volunteers. No word for hours, i call about our dog who had been in an accident. No answer on mobile. The workplace answer and hes not been there. At all. I find him at a friends house.
He gave up smoking. Then started again, id smelt it a few times and asked and he denied it. He then was scumming them off everyone....but wouldnt tell me. Someone let it slip and he just shook his head like a non issue.
but the biggest....
He was talking provocatively to his best friends fiance. Long story short it had been going on for a while and they were trying to organise a time to take it further. I discovered the messages and confronted him. He denied it until i said id seen it.
We did split up but are giving it another chance.
So now, tonight....
He calls me from work to let me know he is dropping another worker (a female) off at home on the way home. He finishes at 10. We live about 7 mins away in heavy (country town) traffic.
He walks in at 10.45. I ask where the other girl lives. Around the corner. I ask why it took so long. His reasoning is she finished at 10.30.
Why not say that initially? When i said 'oh...that would've been nice to know' i was met with a very defensive 'its only half an hour...you're over reacting. I dont need to tell you everything' attitude.
I was ok with the lift. And even would've been ok if he'd said in the call "im going to give x a lift home but she doesn't finish till 10.30 so ill be a bit late"...but he didn't.
So now im wondering. ..is this worth it? I HATE lying and we go over it all the timbre how i just want him to be honest.
Im always wondering when hes telling the truth. Are his 'i love you's a lie?
What would you do???