I'm more worried that she will over step her bounds there than anything because I'm a bit of a control freak! Ha ha.[/QUOTE]
I would be too and it's nothing to do with being a control freak. I think all mothers and MILs overstep the boundaries to some degree. And too many people have bad MIL stories for it not to be a worry. Given you've never met her it's impossible to know.
Before I met my MIL my husband made her out to be an angel. And she always seemed lovely on Skype etc. So when I met her that's what I expected. Boy was I wrong. Luckily I wasn't giving birth or anything difficult like that at the time, thank god. Yet it was still a nightmare. She has no sense of boundaries at all and despite having been a terrible, neglectful mother herself still believes she knows best. About everything.
If she were here for the birth she'd likely balk at the fact she couldn't smoke in the birthing suite and try to light up a fag anyway, turn up drunk, refuse to let me hold my own baby, try to feed it sausages and probably drop it on its head. Might sound extreme, but I can picture it. I've seen her with other people's babies. She thought it was hilarious when a baby under her watch was sucking on a beer bottle. Almost had a coughing fit between drags on her cigs as she chain-smoked. I kid you not.
Granted, my MIL is a special breed so I'm more unlucky than most, but I wouldn't be taking any chances if I were you. And I agree with all the ladies who say it's time to put yourself first. You're the one who's been creating this person for nine months and you're the one who goes through the pain of delivery and (what I can only imagine at this stage) are the very delicate first few months of your baby's life. I'm sorry, but likening someone going out of their way to take a plane to see you just doesn't remotely compare to that in my opinion. Your husband should accept the priority is you now, more than ever, not what mummy demands.
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!
Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!