I bet I'm not the only one here so I thought it might be cathartic to have a thread on the unhelpful/insensitive things mothers or MIL say.
This is my first child (21 weeks gone) so although I'm not a big worrier I've always got that worry at the back of my mind that everything's okay in there, particularly given a miscarriage in the past and a few glitches with this pregnancy.
Besides dismissing my thoughts about whether we can afford to have our baby at a private hospital, putting her two cents worth in about when I should go back to work, making rude comments about facial features in the 3D ultrasound images, calling me "fatty" etc, yesterday my mother exclaimed: "You know, you're going to have to produce a very special child to compete with your brother's."
Now, I'm not competitive and it hasn't occurred to me to produce anything other than a healthy child. This was also said in front of my brother and his wife who are very competitive so would have loved it.
What a dumb thing to say. Really.