+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 8 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 74
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jun 2016
    Posts
    18
    Thanks
    40
    Thanked
    17
    Reviews
    0

    Default How often do you talk to your partner?

    I started a thread a few weeks ago about a friend who I percieved to be clingy and overbearing. Some posters agreed whereas other saw it as a normal friendship with a healthy amount of communication. It was really interesting to see different people's perspectives of friendship.

    I have another question for my own curiosity : How often do you and your partner communicate?
    E.g, Do you say goodbye in the morning and talk next when you see each other that night? Or are you usually calling and messaging each other throughout the day?
    If you are apart for a few days, do you still phone every night? Or do you enjoy your own space?

    Its funny going out to dinner/ drinks with the girlfriends that some of them are constantly messaging and updating their partners durng the night while others like me just wait until I see him in a few hours. Some get so worked up when their partners do not reply.

    My partner is a truck driver and he's usually away for a full week per month doing interstate. In that week we usually have a 15 minute chat each night and that suits us just fine.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    1,687
    Thanks
    3,504
    Thanked
    975
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    We say goodbye in the morning, dont talk at all until I ring on the way home to check if we need anything. If I am away for work it might be a quick 5min call at night to check in/talk to the kids. He used to work 4w on/off and our only comms was via email. Im not needy for constant communication, we are secure in our relationship and I like my space - lots of it ...

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to KitiK For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    2,269
    Thanks
    2,359
    Thanked
    1,891
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    DH and I talk a few times a day normally. He's often on the road at work in between jobs so will call for a quick chat. We've always got something to talk about and we're best buddies.
    He's away at the moment for 2 months and we also talk each night for 15-20 minutes.
    If I was out with friends I wouldn't be texting him aside from maybe I'm leaving soon or I'm going to be late or something. I wouldn't expect any more from him if he was out socialising either as I think it's rude to sit on your phone texting when hanging with other people.
    I love my own space but I don't feel that talking to my DH when we are apart intrudes on that at all.

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to gingermillie For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (06-08-2016),Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  6. #4
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    683
    Thanks
    107
    Thanked
    111
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Multiple times a day.
    If one of us is going out somewhere without the other there's usually a message once that person has arrived at their destination and one when leaving.
    On regular days there's usually a few phone calls and messages back and forth.
    I went away for work for 2 weeks earlier this year. So there was a call in the morning, messages and calls during the day (when there was phone reception) and face timing using the free wifi at the motels in the evening.

    My partner is my best friend. When something good bad or otherwise happens, the first person I want to tell is my partner.

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to catemer For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  8. #5
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    6,869
    Thanks
    4,775
    Thanked
    4,210
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    mornings we drop dh to work (shared car) so we do goodbye kiss then. if he leaves the house and we are home he will always come in and say bye, give me a kiss etc. usually I'll say I love you, have a good day etc.

    we'll text a big during the day if there's something to discuss. if I'm at work and bored I'll usually text and ask how his day is going. we don't talk on the phone in the day unless there's something to actually talk about (like an issue).

    if we spend a few days apart, we're in contact more often, like checking in with eachother more (just landed, just got to the hotel etc).

    I'm going out tonight without him for the first time since ds was born so I wonder if I'll be texting him much. I'm hoping not. he went out last night without me and I didn't hear much from him. I'm definitely not going to spend the whole night on the phone to him lol

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to turquoisecoast For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  10. #6
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    6,028
    Thanks
    5,464
    Thanked
    4,399
    Reviews
    20
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    We text to say good morning on his break at work, then usually chat back and forth, but it's not something either of us expect the other to do and no issue if it doesn't happen.

    Occasionally we'll text if we're not together, but same as above in that it's not expected, and we wouldn't get the ****s if there's no reply.

    I definitely couldn't sit there and continuously text him if I was out with friends, I'd feel it's rude to my company.

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to atomicmama For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  12. #7
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,003
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week
    After we separate in the morning we generally don't text or speak until we get home from work unless there's something urgent. we are both just too busy to text / chat. When he's away we email as he's often overseas and doesn't have access to texting.

    We've been together for 24 years but I have never needed to speak to him daily. It's just not how we work.

  13. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016),KitiK  (06-08-2016)

  14. #8
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    640
    Thanks
    397
    Thanked
    361
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Dh is normally gone before we get up but he will always come in and give me a kiss and say goodbye. We then don't usually talk again until he's home unless either of us need something throughout the day. Dh is a sales rep so is away from home a little bit. The kids ring him before they go to bed and we might exchange a few texts but we don't actually speak on the phone. We really just talk when we need to when he's away. He fills me in on everything when he gets home. I've been told that's weird and I must not miss him but it's what works for us.

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to BlackDiamond For This Useful Post:

    Happyhaps  (06-08-2016)

  16. #9
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    2,217
    Thanks
    2,050
    Thanked
    1,917
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    At the moment DH & I call or message quite a bit during the day. We've been renovating for the last few months and this is kind of DH's line of business, so we need to communicate a lot about decisions/schedules/materials/etc.

    Before reno though we'd only occasionally message or call during the day, and only if we needed to.

    My sister & I message several times a day, pretty much every day though. I work from home & she's a SAHM so it can get a bit lonely, so we just talk sh!t all day.

  17. #10
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,003
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Just to be clear DH is my closest friend. I'm just not the sort of person who needs to communicate with my closest friends several times a day.

  18. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (06-08-2016),KitiK  (06-08-2016),VicPark  (06-08-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Let's talk Chromsones
    By Nafsika in forum Serious Health Issues
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 17-03-2016, 06:58
  2. Who do I talk to?
    By Theboys&me in forum General Chat
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 10-01-2016, 08:28
  3. At what age do I talk about sex?
    By just her chameleon in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 13-10-2015, 08:53

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Pebblebee
Parents spend hours looking for things they need NOW. The keys, the remote, darling daughter's treasured teddy. Stop wasting precious time looking & start finding with Bub Hub reviewed Pebblebee Smart Tag. Simply attach a Pebblebee and find it fast.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
ProSwim
ProSwim runs learn to swim classes for babies, children and adults. Our indoor centre in Plympton Park has lessons all year round, including school holidays. We also offer outdoor programs during the summer months (Oct-Mar) at Rostrevor college.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!