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    So even though the majority of the posts said the nanny should suck it up, you're just going to pick the posts that agree with you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    So even though the majority of the posts said the nanny should suck it up, you're just going to pick the posts that agree with you?
    I suspect she's just seeking validation for her opinion

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    So even though the majority of the posts said the nanny should suck it up, you're just going to pick the posts that agree with you?
    I was just going to write the same thing; I felt like I was reading a reply from a completely different thread.

    And as for those that quoted me and said I was unreasonable. Children are unpredictable, and need constant supervision particularly at young ages. Even if my child is asleep or happily playing quietly so I can grab a cuppa I'm still on alert and supervising. I expect my nanny to do the same. As other said they cannot go oh it's 11am I am required to go on break so you just keep playing with those knives and I'll see you in 10.
    Some days my kids will sleep great so lots of break times. Other days they don't sleep at all or not at the same time.

    As for the op comment the parents can watch to but the nanny can't um if the child is in care 4 days ( 2 at home 2 somewhere else) then that implies the parents work. So they go off work then come home and work so they're allowed some down time too. The nanny is being paid to supervise kids not watch tv. If she's spoken to a professional about it then maybe it's not the right environment for her

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    OP are you the nanny or the parent?

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    One thing 1 found that may help the Nannie I had to pat my DD to sleep I grew tired of it. & brought a small heat pack placed it on my DDs back or bum (not heated) when I got tired of patting her to sleep it was more the feeling of comfort of the weight I guess it seemed to help.

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    One of my charges needed to be rocked to sleep for several months. She'd wake after 30 minutes and the expectation was that I would sit in the rocking chair with her and attempt to resettle.

    It was not uncomfortable as it was in a rocking chair. Sure there weren't breaks of long stretches that I could put my feet up... But it was a job with a job description... And the sleep approach was part of that description.

    The parents employ you on the basis that you can meet their expectations and do for the child what they would do in their absence... Even though it's hard work.

    Perhaps talk to them about your arm being sore (if you're the nanny), and ask if they can get a rocking chair as you're in pain. But debating on resettling is a no go. It's part of the job. If they don't accommodate with a rocking chair or other alternative so you're not in pain, find a new job that the child sleeps 3 hours if you're wanting to put your feet up and watch tv on your breaks.

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    Default whats fair to expect from a babysitter re huge amounts of patting a child to...

    Expecting your nanny to do something (patting constantly and it not working) to get a baby to sleep that she has in her care for only two days and that nobody else is willing to do is unreasonable, if only for the reason that the patting will never work because there's no consistency among all carers.

    Saying nannies deserve a break does not mean we expect it at a specific time and just walk off and leave kids unsupervised so we can do what we like, Jesus Christ. It's ridiculous to even have to explain it.

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    Please enlighten me exactly when a nanny can get a break when they're looking after a demanding infant?

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    Of course nannies deserve a break. But I also believe as long as the parent's requests are within legal guidelines that the nanny should do what they can to follow the requests. She is being paid to, amongst other tasks, get the baby to sleep. If that is patting then fair enough.

    I remember as a teen having a hospitality job. There were some tasks that I quite disliked. Like skinning and cutting up around 20kg of onions in one night (I kid not lol). Spending hours making up takeaway boxes where I got terrible paper cuts. The tasks weren't enjoyable but they were part of the job description. I could have easily left.

    People may disagree, but this is their child and they are paying for the services of the nanny. They are not asking anything illegal, and I'm sure somewhere in the course of the day they can get a 30 min break. If the nanny doesn't like to pat then they maybe best to find another arrangement.

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    As a nanny, I can't believe some of the comments in this thread.

    Yes, I think it's a bit much to expect a nanny to pat a child to sleep 2 days a week, if this is not what the parents do.

    But also as a nanny, I believe communication between everyone is so bloody important. When I first started my job, I had a terrible sleeper, to the point where he would only sleep if he was held. With hard work, by everyone not just me, he now sleeps like an angel without any need for help. Put him in his cot and he's off.

    Nannies deserve breaks, but yes some days are busier than others. Doesn't mean you don't deserve a chance to eat, or sit for 5 minutes, go to the toilet, etc. sometimes you just have to make these things work around what the child is doing. If the child is having lunch, sit and eat your lunch with them, if the child is happily playing, sit down beside them and have 10 minutes off your feet. If the child is asleep, rest.

    Main thing: communication.
    It's important to be able to speak to your employers/ parents. Yes you work for them, but they obviously trust you a lot to leave their child in your sole care, so be open with them. 9 times out of 10, they will appreciate the honesty. Be up front, don't worry if there are days when you have to say "sorry I didn't get all the washing done today, we have had a crazy day".

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