also being raised as tough and adventurous means letting them explore, letting them get dirty, be loud, if they fall over and scrape their knee they can stand up dust off and keep going. we are proud of the kids. they get all the love and attention in the world. we do the same as any other parents and love them unconditionally. yes its a bigger step for me because im a step mum. i have no biological children. im also in my early 20s. but our kids are healthy, happy, loved and cheeky. im looking for advice, not to be judged on the way we parent or being told that we dont parent kindly.
Last edited by VicPark; 04-08-2016 at 20:13.
wow this place is meant to be for support and all thats happened is me getting ripped into, insulted and told that i cant parents. i think i should find a forum thats actually going to be supportive and not be ganged up on. nice work ladies.
Hi Silver fox, I think what some of the previous posters are trying to say is that the current methods of parenting you use on your other children may not be the best approach for this little poppet. She hadn't had the same start to life as your other kids and you may need to approach parenting with the gently gently approach until she feels settled and secure. I don't personally feel like you were being judged, just advice that your usual parenting approach may need to be tailored different for your step daughter. I also agree that it will definitely be in her best interests to seek out professional help for her to give her the best chance at wonderful future. Best wishes
Some of the wording in your posts did come across as dismissive of the little girl's situation and emotional needs. Hence the strongly worded advice.
I stand by the advice I gave - the girl needs psychological help. I hope you see that she gets it.
My heart is breaking for this little girl
OP please please seek professional help for her. With her start to life I would not be surprised at all if she has Fetal Alchohol Syndrome and Reactive Attachment Disorder. She will need professional help for this, and you and your husband will need professional help and advice on parenting a child with these issues.
You may be doing a fantastic job parenting your other kids, but this little girl is a whole other kettle of fish.
She will need extra attention, extra love and extra reassurance. You may see this as 'coddling', but she desperately needs it right now.
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