@lotsathoughts I don't see myself as a strong person but I do get told that a bit so maybe I'm stronger than I give myself credit for. I think what made it easier for me is that when I got my bfn at the end of April/ early May. I started to think about what I'd do if the next one was also a negative. Only because I knew it as our last one and we couldn't just go onto the next fet like we have been since November last year. I'm usually a huge planner so I needed to have something. Once we got a bfp this time, those plans went out of the window and we went to our second baby plan but when it didn't work out we went straight back to our plan as if this was a bfn, if that makes sense. It is very unlike me to not have a real plan re: IVF but I think after everything it's probably helping to not have a focus on that but on other aspects of my life. It certainly helped to be able to automatically focus on new plans once the initial shock wore off. I do think I wouldn't be coping so well if I didn't have that. The basic idea for the next few months is for me to give up work in 3mths- I was only going back between kids anyway so with what's happening, we aren't putting that off any longer. My break from work will start with taking DD to the wiggles and then we are going away with family between Christmas/ new year, which is something we wouldn't have been able to do had I been still working for another 6mths. We also want to go away in about 6mths time for a family holiday. At this stage we are thinking of the Gold Coast to take DD to dreamworld. Otherwise it will be a South Pacific cruise. Friends just invited us to Sydney for the long weekend that's coming up so that's my focus and I just have a little cry every now and then but mostly push the rest of the feelings aside. I don't feel like I'm bottling things up but just don't want to be upset all the time when I can't change anything. You'll definitely get there Hun but maybe plan something nice or hopefully the weekend away helps.
@Finchee regarding scans, I think it depends on whether you are public or private. I went private with DD and had a dating scan with my FS at 8wks, my first obs appt at 10wks and then my NT scan at 12.5wks and a follow up with my obs the following week, which was only about 4 days later. After that it was 4 weekly scans til 30wks then fortnightly til 36wks and then weekly. I also had a 3D scan at 25wks and a final measurement scan at 37wks (so had 2 scans on one day that time). I remember it felt like ages between getting my bfp and getting to the dating scan last time. Time went quicker til 12wks since I had my 10wks obs appt in between and then another scan straight after the NT one. At about 16/17wks, I felt small amounts of movement from DD so I felt pretty good then. Last time I was quite reassured with my pregnancy after the dating scan and felt 100% at ease once I got to 12wks. I was in a calm little bubble back then where nothing had gone wrong though so probably will never get to be that innocent again.