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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    My mother's side start puberty early and don't hit menopause until well into the 50's. At say 52 is it ok for me to keep procreating since nature says I'm still fertile? (fat chance lol but just playing devil's advocate)
    That was what I was asking in the first place haha. It was suggested that it's okay up until menopause which is why I then posted that.

    I'm not sure where the line should be drawn because I haven't hit an age deemed unacceptable by society but still wanted a child. I just think it's an interesting topic because people are having children later in life and once upon a time the notion of having children in their late 40s or 50s would have been quite unusual but now is becoming more and more normal.

    Just like in the past when child bearing age was much younger but now if we hear of 16 years old getting pregnant we make to shows about them.

    It seems as though what is acceptable has flipped somewhat but it's still a tricky one to work out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilex View Post
    Truthfully I'm on the fence with this one.

    I was simply pointing out that 63 does not equal Alzheimer's and wheelchairs.
    The father is 78. Is that not even relevant?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TortoiseNotTheHare View Post
    That was what I was asking in the first place haha.
    Yeah I know, I was just adding in my bit to agree with you

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    I'm the type of person that thinks some times you just shouldn't have kids...... Yes that sounds harsh and I know the IVF people will slam me. I know I am blessed with my two beautiful children and I am VERY lucky.... But to go outside of Australia when you were told no here? Are you serious.....

    There are thousands of kids needing help for foster they could of helped ffs!!

    I don't see it right or healthy for the child. And I don't think 'oh parents die blah blah' that statement is stupid. Because lots of the time kids don't end up with grandparents because I know mine won't be. They will be living with my best friend who is 25 years old.
    IVF people? Here we go...

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    I'm curious @monnie24, what you mean when you say the "IVF people". As in all "IVF people" or just the "IVF people" over a certain age?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Olive Oil View Post
    I'm curious @monnie24, what you mean when you say the "IVF people". As in all "IVF people" or just the "IVF people" over a certain age?
    Yeah, I'd hate to be placed in the same basket because I'm an 'IVF person' (who was 25 when I started the process). Some things will never fill the place of wanting to carry your own child.

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    I hope they are both in good health.

    I hope they have help, a good support network, a nanny even.

    I hope they have financial security (don't need to work & can afford to provide for their child).

    I hope they have a plan for after their departure & I hope that person/people is already in babies life.

    Regardless of all that, you can pretty much guarantee the baby is going to be caring for the parents by the time it's a teenager.

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    Quote Originally Posted by YeahYeahYeah View Post
    Regardless of all that, you can pretty much guarantee the baby is going to be caring for the parents by the time it's a teenager.
    I know where you are coming from, and I do agree. But where is the line? Should people with MS not have kids bc 18 years down the track their illness would have drastically worsened? What about people with mental health issues? Should people with depression be branded selfish bc their kids may have to look after them or grow up too fast?

    As I said, I really don't think this is best case scenario at all. But many of the objections can be applied to lots of different groups and siutations where they can be young.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I know where you are coming from, and I do agree. But where is the line? Should people with MS not have kids bc 18 years down the track their illness would have drastically worsened? What about people with mental health issues? Should people with depression be branded selfish bc their kids may have to look after them or grow up too fast?

    As I said, I really don't think this is best case scenario at all. But many of the objections can be applied to lots of different groups and siutations where they can be young.
    I guess the difference there is that there are lots of support services in place for mental health, and physical disabilities...also, generally speaking (big generalisation), there is an able bodied person capable of parenting solo if required.
    I actually have friends with MS...one has chosen to not have children. One did have kids, and is now not in a physically fit state to raise the kids without support...but their dad is.
    In this situation, no parent will be well enough to raise their child. The chances of them getting sick or ageing fast before this child is an adult is extremely high. It doesn't matter how fit they are now, even the fittest and healthiest of people can age fast at that age (especially 78). Heck, my nana is 84...at 78 she was still going for hourly walks each day, was out 4-5 times a week, and looked after herself completely. 6 years on she now relies on others to provide her with food, has difficulty walking to her letter box, gets a cleaner, and can only manage to go out for a couple of hours a couple of days a week as it exhausts her. What's wrong with her? She got old. She's got nothing medically wrong...she's had all the tests...she's just ageing. She's been told she could last another 5+ years yet....but in no way could she raise a child until the age of 11.
    My point is, no matter how healthy and 'young for your age' you are at 63 and 78...you are extremely unlikely to be able to raise a child in to its adult hood...and an only child. I imagine their life will be very lonely (not because they're an only child, but because their parents will die when the child is young, there will be no living grandparents, aunties, uncles etc.)

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