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    Quote Originally Posted by Hasselhoff View Post
    Sorry op kinda off topic but just a quick question...

    This stood out to me.. If it were the other way around and a woman said she was being forced into a lifestyle she didn't feel comfortable with by her husband everyone here would be screaming and carrying on about it.. Why is it because he's a grown man it's different?
    I've noticed on BH it really does seem to come down to gender.
    Well women are often victims of bad choices because of economic factors. They are more likely to make poor choices if they feel they cannot afford to be alone.

    I'm not sure. I'd make the same comment about a woman in the position of the OP's husband and I'd probably be flamed for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hasselhoff View Post
    Sorry op kinda off topic but just a quick question...

    This stood out to me.. If it were the other way around and a woman said she was being forced into a lifestyle she didn't feel comfortable with by her husband everyone here would be screaming and carrying on about it.. Why is it because he's a grown man it's different?
    I've noticed on BH it really does seem to come down to gender.
    Exactly ! Imagine the comments if it was the other way round

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    I feel sorry for your husband. I truly hope he finds happiness. He isn't hurting anyone. He must feel so confused about things.

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    Sorry if I get this wrong op but are you basically saying because you gave up sex with other women he should give up wearing pantyhose?

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    Default WWYD Lying Husband possible trigger

    Stop blaming your husband for all the problems in your life. Unless you self reflect and see the significant role your own choices and behavior has/is playing in the downfall of your marriage nothing will change/improve.

    No-one here can help you unless you are open and honest with your self reflection.

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    I actually feel very sorry for your husband. I think you both need some serious counseling.

    My opinion on it is you can't compare what you have given up to what he is doing. Essentially you were physically cheating whilst he is just pleasuring himself. Stop throwing them out, buy him his own, stop calling him creepy and start joining in. No wonder he keeps lying to you about it!

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    Id be asking why he lies?

    Given your sexual adventures etc I'm not sure why there is an issue with the pantyhose?

    I have only read the first post.

    Lying is never pleasant, I get that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    And as for encouraging him into your former lifestyle. Sorry he's a grown man who makes his own choices. If he wasn't comfortable he didn't have to do it did he?
    It's possible he went along with it because he knew he had his own fetishes unbeknownst to the OP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by someoldgirl View Post
    Let's turn that around, both ways

    he meet a woman who he loved, she loved him. She was great in every other way. But she had a thing for other women she would, go have sex with them.
    But she always showers when she gets home.

    I ask this of him see what he says... Two way street...


    No drugs of course, I fully agree that it was stupid behaviour.
    Are you saying wearing panty hose is like cheating with another woman?

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    OP at the end of the day if you can't cope with that fetish then end the relationship. It's very unfair for you to be calling him a creep because of this fetish as he isn't hurting anyone. Your past sexual history is irrelavant. Your husband probably lies to you because you put him down and by the sound of it you are not very nice to him. Your husband deserves to be accepted for who he is just as he has accepted you for who you are. Fetishes like this don't just disappear because you want them to, he will just lie and hide it even more, you are making him feel ashamed of something that is part of his sexuality. If you can't accept it then you need to move on.
    I'm also only half convinced this thread is for real.
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