In most situations, no.
But, I think it saved mine. I don't believe dh and I would be together if we never had ds1. We were young and I thought we were far too young to be in a serious relationship. We had been together 4 yrs but were on the brink of splitting up when I got a (very surprise) bfp. I almost terminated, but dh convinced me not to. I did not think we would last. We did separate for about 9 months when ds1 was a baby, and I do not think we would have reconciled had it not been for our son. I say all this... And it blows my mind a little as dh is perfect for me now and I am so glad we stuck it out. I love our family
First baby, it almost ruined our marriage, led both of us to depression and there was serious talks about divorce. Somehow it got better as DS got older. Just when we were rebuilding our relationship, fell pregnant with DD, Dh was mortified, because he didn't want our relationship going down that way again. However, the arrival of DD strengthened our relationship even more and we are now in a much better place. I think that's also because DD is so much easier than DS. Poor DS had reflux and it was so so hard for all of us.
Last edited by HLE; 01-08-2016 at 19:22.
I know a couple that had a baby and it survived only a couple of days before life support was turned off.. They then had became pregnant the next month. Their kids are 20 and 15 and they're still together. She often says that if they didn't get pregnant straight away they wouldn't be together now.
Another couple had 3 children and the oldest died of cancer just before 5th bday. They had another baby not long ago and I'm pretty sure they were on "the rocks". They're still together and that last baby is 3+
I know these are different examples but thought I'd share.
For us I wondered for years if DP and I would have kids. I knew I always wanted them, she wasn't so sure. For me I couldn't settle for not having them. I worried we would split because of our different goals in life.
I persisted, and gave it time. DP came around so much so, that our DD came from DP's IVF cycle (I carried).
So whilst we didn't have a baby to 'fix' us, it could have easily ended us by not having one.
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