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    Default Feeling insecure...

    Hey guys, I'm in need of a little pep talk.

    DH is a great guy, very hands on father, always telling me how happy he is with out little family etc. We rarely ever argue. All in all we're pretty happy :-)

    But tonight I feel super insecure and feel like he's gonna cheat on me - even though my brain knows it's crazy talk I can't stop it.

    He employed a young lady at his shop a couple months back. I've always pushed for him to employ a female as they were only male so far. You know the whole diversity thing.
    She's lovely, very nice and kind.

    However for the past weeks I've only heard people talking about how crazy beautiful she is etc. in front of DH, who doesn't comment.
    He just received a text from her on his iPad while I was watching Netflix. So I read
    Nothing bad, just lots of joking, smiley faces, private jokes. They go out all night on Friday nights, her boyfriend usually goes too.
    I just feel so out of it, so old and boring and fat.

    I know nothing is going on, I just feel like a total outsider. And the fact that she is stunning doesn't help.
    Oh and kicker is that she looks exactly like his ex who broke his heart. So totally his type.

    No quoting please I'll delete later...
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    Default Feeling insecure...

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    My goodness - what a picture! Was that from her facebook? If it is, it seems like an odd photo to post of yourself. But, anyway...

    I'd be unhappy that boundaries are being crossed in what should be a strictly professional relationship. And if it were me, I'd be having an honest talk with my DH.

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    I'm sorry you feel that way. I think we all feel a bit insecure at some stage in our relationships.

    Perhaps it's time for a little something to spoil yourself give yourself a boost? Haircut, new dress, lingerie?

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    Wait, picture?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuppet View Post
    My goodness - what a picture! Was that from her facebook? If it is, it seems like an odd photo to post of yourself. But, anyway...
    Yeap, from her public profile. She's a dancer and model so tons of picture like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Olive Oil View Post
    Perhaps it's time for a little something to spoil yourself give yourself a boost? Haircut, new dress, lingerie?
    That's a good idea

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    I'm sorry you're feeling like this. Can you tell your DH how you're feeling and ask that they pipe down with the texts outside work and the jokes etc. if he's the boss, you could approach it from a professionalism stance. How important it is to have some boundaries.
    Having said that, I agree with PP who suggested doing something nice that makes you feel good. Hair, buy some new make up, or a new outfit. Something that gives you a buzz.
    These things aren't always rational so I'm not going to tell you it's silly to feel how you do.

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    pic??

    sorry to hear you're feeling this way.

    from all your posts on here you always struck me as a woman who is very confident in herself. very French, very confident and that's sexy.

    I know that doesn't preclude you from feeling insecure though. I'd probably feel exactly the same way if my dh had some hot girl texting him too.

    I think just focus on yourself as others have suggested...do something to make yourself feel attractive again.

    hugs xx

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    I struggle with insecurities too. I think my DP is too handsome for me sometimes and he's 6 years younger. He's always been faithful and has never crossed boundaries but you never know. I would hope my DP wouldn't cross them and would tell them off. I hope your DH will always do right by you...hugs

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