Ok I feel totally alone in this situation, although I'm sure I am not. I'm hoping to seek advice, because at the moment I'm torn and not sure how to move forward.
My parents were married 49years, when my dad passed away 3 years ago. They had a significant age difference (11 years between mum and dad, dad being the elder one), which I acknowledge. Dad and mum were very close, and I was extremely close to Dad (to the point where I can't go to his grave, and tears still come to me at the mention of him).
I've had chats with my mum, and recently she's told me she's met someone new to be her companion and attend social events with. She has assured me there isn't anything intimate in it, and she doesn't want there to be...yet he is now asking to meet our family in a couple of weeks, and although I do support the notion that I don't want her to be alone, I just don't feel ready to meet anyone new.
I have a young family, with two gorgeous girls, and I don't feel I'm at a point of welcoming someone into my family with open arms.
I know how selfish it sounds, but I am extremely weary of who gets close to my kids and both DH and I said if we had to meet him, our kids wouldn't be there ... And now that the time has come to meet this new guy, I can't bring myself to even go and meet him with just DH and I.
I need advice as to how to be an adult about this...of course I want my mum to be happy, she doesn't need to be alone. But having chats with her on the emotional level I don't think she's ready for this, and I certainly am not. Fwiw she agrees she's not ready for it either, yet she's enjoying and continuing to keep the company!
Please help me!