Just wonder if other sahm's appreciated in advance what this could mean in the long term? I think I was totally and utterly naive. When dd1 was born 9 years ago I was so pleased that we could afford for me not to work and dp happy with that arrangement. Actually I did go back part-time when she was a year but we moved to Australia when she was 18 months so I left my job. But I was happy to. I missed her and wanted this move. I'd always had a job since I was 14. Part time at school and uni. But put myself through uni no loans at the end. Worked 2 jobs to travel. Despite being well educated I didn't find my vocation. I drifted until my last job which was pretty good and had potential for advancement. But I never ever had an issues finding work. I think that's why it didn't really occur to me that taking time off to be home with kids would have a major impact on my job prospects. I did try and find a part time job before I got pregnant with number 2. When he was little I remember discussing things with dp and feeling like I should be contributing financially to the family but he was happier with our set up as his job can be demanding and he never has to worry about getting home for daycare pick ups etc. I didn't know what I would do when ds started school but always presumed I'd study and work again. But since surprise #3 I feel more and more trapped in this role. I'm 43 and so any courses I've looked at when I consider the logistics I'd be lucky to be looking for a graduate position when I'm 50. And I know people say still another 20 years of work. I probably will go down that route and hope it works out but I guess the point of this post is that I'm only just accepting my naivety at the consequences of being a sahm. And so I have this little voice of doubt making me wonder if my moments of optimism about finding a new career in time is again complete naive fantasy? I can't cope with just kids and house. Could I really manage to study? What impact would that have on our family? And even at 50 dd2 will still only be in year 1, ds in 6 and dd2 high school. I'd be looking for part time work from day1. Would I ever be taken seriously? Can you really build a new career when you can only work part time and still have 3 kids and house to look after???