I have a friend who I have known since High School (7 years) and I recently got her a job with my company as I needed a casual help and I knew she was desperate for work at the time. While she is great at work she has a really clingy personality and it is starting to come between us. Im a definite introvert and could happily go weeks without catching up with friends but she is so suffocating and I don't know how to tell her to back off without losing the friendship (and a good co-worker).
She constantly messages me on FB messenger, even after we have spent the whole day working together and will be seeing each other the next day she feels the need to tell me things after work. FB messenger has a horrible feature which shows when a user was 'Last Active' and she has admitted to me that she uses this to keep tabs on people. She checks on her bf while we are working "I messaged him 2 hours ago but it says he was active 15mins ago, why hasn't he replied?".
On the day of my morph scan she bombarded me with messages which actually ruined the experience. I didn't reply to any but she just kept on going. I had the scan at 9.30 and went to work straight after it but she expected me to message he straight away!!
The night before scan: "One more sleep until we find out the sex"
7am the morning of the scan: "OMG the day is here, are you excited?!"
9am while I'm waiting for the scan "Work is so busy but i cant stop checking my phone to see if you're found out yet..whats going on?"
11am after the scan while I was on my way to work: "Are you on your way yet? this has been the longest morning ever for me!! why aren't you answering.. boy or girl??"
And then...She knows I usually go to sleep early, but last night I got up for the toilet and couldn't sleep so I was scrolling through Facebook at 2 am. I receive a message saying "OMG its past 9pm and someone's still up, what are you doing?". Like we have just worked together all week. its 2am on a saturday morning LEAVE ME ALONE!!
I told her that she messages me alot and I'm trying to cut back on using my phone when I don't need to, if it's urgent then ring me, otherwise anything else can wait until the next day at work....but it hasn't changed anything. I don't want to delete messenger because I have so many interstate friends and family who i use that to keep in contact with. I keep my phone on silent overnight or otherwise her late night messages wake me up. HELP PLEASE????