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    Default Does your partner/ spouse ever compliment you

    Mine never does.

    He's pretty good in other ways. Cooks, cleans, helps out around the house etc

    But never says anything nice about me. Ever

    Is this normal?

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    It can be!

    have you heard of the 5 love languages?

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    Never ever

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    Also, if I'm having a down day ( I don't have any family I'm
    In contact with & not many friends due to moving so much so I generally feel pretty lonely and I guess I might annoy him a bit when I'm feeling down)- he literally never says anything nice about me.

    Like today for example, crying upset no confidence he just sort of ignores me.

    And if he wants to go bed or wants me to stop crying he'll say something "nice" but I know it's because I he wants me to stop talking.

    And if we argue I wonder sometimes if turning things back around on me is normal?

    Don't know of I'm just feeling sorry for myself

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Also, if I'm having a down day ( I don't have any family I'm
    In contact with & not many friends due to moving so much so I generally feel pretty lonely and I guess I might annoy him a bit when I'm feeling down)- he literally never says anything nice about me.

    Like today for example, crying upset no confidence he just sort of ignores me.

    And if he wants to go bed or wants me to stop crying he'll say something "nice" but I know it's because I he wants me to stop talking.

    And if we argue I wonder sometimes if turning things back around on me is normal?

    Don't know of I'm just feeling sorry for myself

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    Yes.... Not all the time but def if I dress up or cook a nice meal or if I organise something well. He's impressed with my conflict resolution skills he tells me. Maybe every couple of days I'll get a compliment.

    I don't get any compliments on my body which makes me sad 😭

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    Quote Originally Posted by UmmInayah View Post
    It can be!

    have you heard of the 5 love languages?
    No, but just google-d this, thanks 😀

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    My exH never complimented me, ever.
    My DH now does all the time. He tells me I'm beautiful as soon as I wake up in the morning, compliments my cooking and will always make a big deal out of how great I look when I get dressed to go out etc. Even more so now that I'm pregnant.

    So I guess I've had both extremes!

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Also, if I'm having a down day ( I don't have any family I'm
    In contact with & not many friends due to moving so much so I generally feel pretty lonely and I guess I might annoy him a bit when I'm feeling down)- he literally never says anything nice about me.

    Like today for example, crying upset no confidence he just sort of ignores me.

    And if he wants to go bed or wants me to stop crying he'll say something "nice" but I know it's because I he wants me to stop talking.

    And if we argue I wonder sometimes if turning things back around on me is normal?

    Don't know of I'm just feeling sorry for myself
    Mine is exactly the same except he wouldn't say something nice to get me to stop he would just sit there watching tv or playing on his phone ignoring me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    No, but just google-d this, thanks ������

    Youre welcome. It might help you understand why he does what he does. For you words of affirmation seem important, but for him it's more acts of service.

    these 5 love languages have helped me understand my husband a lot!

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