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    Default MIL doing it tough - thoughtful suggestions?

    My MIL (who lives 5 hours away) has cancer and was supposed to be operated on today but it got cancelled

    Her and FIL are pensioners who are really doing it tough, especially with MIL needing to pay for specialist appointments etc.

    I want to help them out in a few ways (buy them phone credit, a prepaid visa, some home delivered groceries etc). We will also make the journey up to visit for a few days when she's in hospital.

    Does anyone have any nice/helpful suggestions?

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    I'm sorry to hear she's so unwell

    Could you stock the freezer with some meals for when she gets home? Or arrange a cleaner to come in ?

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    Sorry to hear she's unwell

    What about those meal delivery services that provide you with recipes and fresh ingredients? So you're still getting healthy, homecooked fresh food, but the hassle and thought is taken out for them.

    I like the idea of a cleaner too. That would be so helpful.

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    Cleaner idea is great as it will take the strain off fil. Having the house clean when she gets homes and nice clean linen on the bed. I love this my DP bought all new linen for when I got home with new DS on the weekend.

    Maybe you could make a heap of assorted meals up to freeze that way they only need to take something out the freezer for dinner each day.

    Lavender products go well for mil like creams and an oil to help with circulation, fil would have to massage her etc.

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    Sorry to hear they're doing it tough. Depending on what sort of treatment she is having, she might appreciate this pack for her sore skin and make her feel a bit pampered and spoiled as well as soothing the rawness? https://moogoo.com.au/moogoo-gift/on...care-pack.html

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    Cleaner and a freezer full of food are also excellent suggestions!

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    Sorry to hear your MIL's surgery has been cancelled. Would be tough all on of you waiting for the outcome.
    I think all the things you plan to do is fantastic, I could imagine how appreciative they would be. Do you have any time to bake some frozen meals too? Could be helpful for FIL whilst she's in hospital and also once your MIL gets out.

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    its so awful when they are struggling and you are so far away.

    Agree with the others though. food in the freezer, and a clean house will go a long way.

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    Depending on what you can afford, I'd buy grocery items for them, make some meals and hire a cleaner. I think that's all you can really do, but I'm sure it would mean the world to them.

    You're doing a really kind thing. I hope she gets well

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    Hospital parking fees can be brutal - even worse when you need to go several times for several hours. Could you buy FIL a several day parking pass for the hospital your MIL is at? Then at least he won't have to worry about how long he stays with MIL at the hospital or how many times he can visit & hopefully won't have to park miles away.
    Otherwise I think helping with groceries is lovely - make sure there's lots of fresh fruit and snacks in case they don't feel like cooking much

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