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    Default How to deal with crying & whinging?

    How do you deal with whinging?

    Crying, whinging, complaining, it all seems to depletes me.

    DD (4) in particular is driving me crazy.

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    I've mastered the art of tuning out...except with DD3 as she's just a baby so I try to keep on top of her needs. She's not much of a crier though. I tune out mostly to my older girls if they are fighting or whinging, and I tune out to DP too lol. If your 4yo is just whinging for no reason, ignore her Or say for example " I'm not going to answer until you ask me nicely" then tune out lol.
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    I ask DS to use his words and explain what's wrong, then act on it straight away. Most of the time he just wants attention, so I stop for a minute, give him a cuddle, play with his cars, then explain that I need to keep doing X and I'll come back when I'm finished. If I can I get him to help me with whatever I'm doing and that keeps him occupied.

    If he whinges for specific things, eg. "I want biscuits!" I tell him that he can't have anything unless he stops whinging and uses a normal voice. Trying to teach him that whinging won't get him he wants, but asking nicely he'll be more likely to get what he wants... its a work in progess!

    I find he mostly whinges and acts up when he's bored or lonely. So I try to address that cause rather than the symptom.

    Good luck hun! It's enough to drive anyone batty!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marchbundle View Post
    I've mastered the art of tuning out...except with DD3 as she's just a baby so I try to keep on top of her needs. She's not much of a crier though. I tune out mostly to my older girls if they are fighting or whinging, and I tune out to DP too lol. If your 4yo is just whinging for no reason, ignore her Or say for example " I'm not going to answer until you ask me nicely" then tune out lol.
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    I explain I can't understand that whiney voice and to please speak properly. I don't give anything they want until they speak properly. Sometimes if I can see he or she is getting overly emotional I'll stop what I'm doing and give a cuddle and some attention.

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    Like Frankenmum I reckon there is usually something underlying. So I work on that. Mine are big whingers but can easily turn to it when they're tired or hungry. If nothing else works, going outside really helps to lighten everybody's mood.

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    Default How to deal with crying & whinging?

    Thank you everyone.

    I usually am pretty good at helping whatever need she has, attention, food or whatever. But lately she had been throwing tantrums about her brother that I can't do anything about. I want that blanket, he has that toy and no talking, negotiating is stopping it.

    Last night she cried for a solid 40 minutes because a very sick DS had a particular blanket on his bed.

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    I talk and listen to my children. I spend time with them. I let them know it's ok to be angry/sad/frustrated (but not ok to hurt others if that's happening) and let them know I'm here for them.
    We go for walks or get out of the house for a change of scenery.


 

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