I was going to say cancel too until I saw the 16 people! Glad you managed to get a compromise
Postpone your friend coming over and see your mother inlaw for her birthday.
Send your husband to spend time with his mum.
It's her birthday. Perhaps she hadn't even thought of anything when you saw her last.
In all honesty if you leave it to a few days beforehand to tell people then you have to expect people can't come. And I really don't think expecting people to cancel dinner with friends for a standard birthday dinner is fair.
I don't particularly like my inlaws and live on the same property as them so it's a bit diff for me, but if my mil made a fuss I wouldnt have been too happy.
On her 50th I missed netball training and cooked her dinner lol as she wasn't doing anything so I'm not a total Scrooge but something non milestone is ridiculous if there was no notice.
Glad you sorted it
My IL's are 'plan something every year for their birthday (not mecessarily on their birthday, though) and tell you two days before' type people. It sh!ts me to tears...but for DH's sake I keep the week surrounding their birthdays free, and DH lets them know if we make plans on a day so they can have their last minute celebration on a different day. They absolutely expect us to be there. It's frustrating.
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