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    So, MIL's birthday is on Friday, we saw her a few days ago and she said nothing about doing anything on her birthday. So we made plans for this Friday to have some friends over... now - halfway thru Wednesday she calls up DH and wants us to all go out for pizza... DH said no we can't as we have visitors and she should have said something before now.. so of course she's shirty about it and expects us to cancel the friends for her last minute do... wwyd? DH's opinion is stuff it, as she had a whole day to tell us when we spent the day with them a few days ago. thoughts? it is NOT a milestone birthday, just a regular b'day.

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    IMO birthday trumps other social plans. Family birthday moreso.

    Sorry, if it were me I'd cancel/change my plans with the others. I know it's annoying, and it's something I can imagine my mother pulling, but I think birthdays are special.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    IMO birthday trumps other social plans. Family birthday moreso.

    Sorry, if it were me I'd cancel/change my plans with the others. I know it's annoying, and it's something I can imagine my mother pulling, but I think birthdays are special.
    Yep. As annoying as it is imagine if it was your birthday and your family decided to spend it socialising with their own friends.

    Sure, she didn't mention anything, but neither did you. If I knew someone's birthday was coming up I'd be asking them if they had any plans. If she then said no you might have a right to get shirty.

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    I always keep birthdays free. Usually we would try to organise something beforehand though.

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    This is why I'm glad we don't have family around.

    I know my view won't be popular but I am someone who finds adults making a fuss of non milestone birthdays a bit childish.

    I'd cancel my plans but would be annoyed. But I'd get over it pretty quickly. Look at it this way. 2 celebrations.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    This is why I'm glad we don't have family around.

    I know my view won't be popular but I am someone who finds adults making a fuss of non milestone birthdays a bit childish.

    I'd cancel my plans but would be annoyed. But I'd get over it pretty quickly. Look at it this way. 2 celebrations.
    I don't consider going out with family for pizza "making a fuss".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    I don't consider going out with family for pizza "making a fuss".
    No but her being upset about them not going is.

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    I think you/your DH should have asked her if she was planning any celebrations for her birthday when you saw her a few days ago, then you would have known for sure that you were/weren't free to make alternative plans with friends.

    I'm not overly precious about birthdays and I don't think it's a huge deal, but I can see why she's a bit disappointed. She probably thought it was a given that you guys would be able to celebrate with her.

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    Ok so we all settled for Saturday night. She gave dh the "i can die tomorrow " as we couldn't make it Friday, but oh well, it's still going to happen Saturday. Yes sure we could have asked her if she was going to do something but she normally does know that trying to get the whole family free on a weeknight would be hard as some of us are studying, have sports commitments, work, have multiple young kids.. When there's 16 people you want to be free then say so early enough. I'm fine with going but there's no need to get huffy about it like a child either.

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    Ok, I stand corrected. 16 (!!) people out for pizza and carrying on when she could of just changed it to the next night IS making a fuss
    Sounds like a drama queen lol

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