Not sure if anyone will read this or not but thought it was worth a go!
I'm mum to 3 girls (13,9,8) and step mum to G/B twins of 12 and G 15. My issue is that I'm really struggling with food issues in our house. Both DSD are obese (Miss 12 is size 16 and Miss 15 is size 20) and they constantly steal food. DH just throws his hands in the air and says "what can I do? They do it at their mums" and thinks I'm too hard on them because they're veggie and don't eat enough protein so should be allowed to raid the fridge overnight?! It's got so bad that we have a fridge in our bedroom with a bike lock in the handles so they can't get into it if we are not in the house. I have to keep all lunchbox stuff in my room or miss 15 will eat 6 packs of chips in one go...last Xmas she had to have her gallbladder out and (having had the same op but at 38!) I know it can be down to poor diet. Mr 12 has Aspergers (so do all 3 of my girls) and refuses to eat anything much apart from hot chips, chocolate and junk food. I cook and make him and DSDs sit in front of balanced plates every night, but every night it gets thrown out (even when it's something they apparently like!) and that is fine with DH.
Last night I made a choccy cake for dessert as a treat, and they stripped the chocolate buttons off it as it was setting in the fridge, so after dinner when I got it out there were finger marks and gouges all over the icing. I told them I didn't care who it was, I found it upsetting and disrespectful and was hurt they had destroyed something which was supposed to be a treat for everyone. I thought that would be an end to it. When I opened the fridge just now I found that overnight they had done it again and left the cake tin open in the fridge.
It feels like total defiance, and I'm worried that the girls are developing binging habits. DH just says you can't stop kids stealing food, it's too tempting, he did the same when he was a kid. My girls have never done it as I consider it totally unacceptable, so I know it's not true that all kids do...
I'd welcome your thoughts and advice. If I am being over sensitive, please tell me - I need some objective opinions as it's getting to be a real issue in our house!
Thank you xxx