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    Default which one of us is being unreasonable?

    OK so my views here may be skewed by the fact that I can't stand my mother & her being here isn't mediated by my dad.

    If you had to have someone stay with you overnight to care for you after having had anaesthic & a procedure that can affect your cognitive skills/memory etc (ECT) would you expect that said person staying would be responsible for cooking dinner or would you expect to have to cook dinner for them?

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    I would have prepared or purchased something the day before that was very quick and simple to get ready. And then expect (or very much appreciate!) the person staying over to help to get it ready.

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    I would expect to cook dinner for them. I think if the person requires to stay at someone's house after a procedure it's for a good reason.

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    [QUOTE=Full House;8521581]I would expect to cook dinner for them. I think if the person requires to stay at someone's house afte

    I think that maybe you could spring for take way or buy something or make something the day that can just be heated up.

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    [QUOTE=sunnyflower;8521584]
    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    I would expect to cook dinner for them. I think if the person requires to stay at someone's house afte

    I think that maybe you could spring for take way or buy something or make something the day that can just be heated up.
    Did you mean to quote me?

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    I'd assume they were cooking for me or I would order pizza or something. I wouldn't be cooking!

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    all dinner required was to be put in the oven for 30 minutes (had purchased lasagne & garlic bread) & make a garden salad to go with it.

    Finances combined with the fact it is weekly (and they require me to provide the money for the significant amount of petrol they need to get here) mean it is impossible for me to provide take away

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    It's likely I would have prepared something prior for myself and the carer or we would have take away.

    However, that depends on who is staying, my mum then she would cook for me because she is just that kind of person. My mother in law on the other hand would expect dinner to be made for her.

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    [QUOTE=Full House;8521589]
    Quote Originally Posted by sunnyflower View Post
    Did you mean to quote me?
    Actually no sorry.

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    I think the arrangement should be that you provide and they cook. What you bought was a good option.


 

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