This is such an issue for me, I do 99.99% of indoor duties and I hate it. I used to blame MIL for DH being lazy as she did everything for him. Then I started blaming myself for letting him get away with things for so long. But I've changed my mind. He's the one at fault. Surely a 41 year old man can have a mind of his own and if he sees the dishes need to be put away, or a load of washing needs to be done or the floor needs vacuuming then he should damn well do it, he is more than capable of doing it himself without being asked.
If I do ask him to help he will either do it by force or claim he's busy doing something else. He also says he does the outside work so it's only fair I do the inside work. How is that fair? You can't compare outside & inside work, it's not 50-50.
I'm currently on maternity leave from my part-time job. He works full time with a 4 hour commute (2 hours one way, less if he pays for tolls) so I am mindful of that, but surely he can help out, he lives here too. I'm not supposed to be his maid. When I bring up the subject he says don't worry about the housework. As if.
My brother works full-time and goes above and beyond his household duties, more than my SIL. When I tell DH what a wonderful husband my brother is he accuses me of wishing I married my brother. Seriously!
He also sits on the toilet waaaaay longer than is expected when doing a number 2, usually twice a day. So much time wasted just to avoid housework, it drives me crazy. I feel like handing him a basket full of laundry to fold whilst he's sitting there, I think that's good time management to me