I'm at home DH works FT. He has quite a flexible job where he might only work 4 days but work 12 hours on a few days. Other weeks he works 5 days at 10+ hours a day.
When I'm feeling overwhelmed with a grumpy teething child, tired from no sleep and worn out from my eldest 2 I whinge he doesn't do enough. But in reality he does more than most men. He does a fair bit around the house on his days off and he does lots with the kids. Sometimes he'll roll in at 8.30pm after a 12 hour day to me frazzled with DS2 and he'll put him and the elder 2 to bed