I'm so confused about what advice to follow in regards to my DD's sleep! We never really gave this much thought before she was born - all I really decided on was that I would hold her as often as I wanted to.
Now DD is 4 weeks old and my head is spinning from all the unsolicited advice! The nurse and my mother think I should put her down and let her settle herself to sleep.
My sister says do whatever you have to do in these early weeks, just as long as she sleeps.
Google says swaddle, swaddle, swaddle.
I know habits of newborns change so frequently, but currently bubs does need to be fed/cuddled/rocked to sleep. Daytime sleeps are hard to come by, sometimes she won't sleep at all until late afternoon so if I manage to get her to sleep in my arms then that's where she stays, I won't risk putting her down and waking her up as she's so unsettled during the day.
At night I feed her lying down and she drifts off next to me after she finishes her feed. If I have the energy I'll move her to the little cosleeper between DH and I, or I'll leave her where she is and sleep with one eye open.
Sometimes swaddling works with her, but usually only at night.
I know my 'methods' are inconsistent, but the way I see it the early weeks are about survival. I guess I'm just worried that I've shot myself in the foot and ruined my chances of a 'good sleeper'.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Should I go with my gut instincts and ignore people?