I totally agree with you @Peridot and I'm terribly sorry to hear you've been through the ringer by the clinic in Melb.
I agree that sometimes there is conflicting information provided by what the FS says and what the nurse ends up instructing us.
I had a similar trigger problem in my first FET cycle- the opposite actually. FS didnt mention anything about a trigger- then again, getting any information out of my FS is like winning the lotto.
Anyways- when the time came, I was given a day's notice to go into the city Pharmacy to pick the trigger, nurses instructions were to trigger that night. I didnt believe I needed it because I was going to ovulate the next few days. However, for scheduling purposes they wanted me to ovulate on a specific day. So I would imagine that the nurses suspect you will ovulate on their schedule and therefore not required to trigger.
I couldnt agree more about the overworked nurses and FS at Primary. I can only speak for the Sydney clinic but I imagine this would be the same in Melb.
There has been times when I've had to correct the nurses - the type of prog support I should be on, how much or where I am in my cycle. I dont mean that in a boastful way, merely stating. It certainly doesn't instill any confidence in a patient when you, as a patient, have to tell the nurses what to do. But I understand thats because there are so many women going through them now that its hard to juggle. Our names are purely just letters on a piece of paper and its become less personable.
A new nurse had been working for 2 weeks with the Sydney clinic before I had my FET and just by the shakiness in her voice, I was could tell she was flustered ( or nervous) and overwhelmed.
I believe we know our bodies more than the FS and nurses. My advice for all the ladies about to go with Primary or any other IVF clinics for that matter- is yes follow their instructions ( to a T), record EVERYTHING- you need to know your baseline and if the unfortunate happens and it takes you several cycles, you need to know that the changes ( if any) has made any difference.
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Another thing- Ask questions and when you dont get answers, YOU GO LOOKING FOR IT!
And yes- medical pple have big egos and are easily bruised- 10 years or more of medical training will do that to pple
Sorry this isnt bashing Primary. Just sharing our experiences and the least we can do for ladies thinking about embarking on this journey is to be honest about it. Its not all sunshine and rainbow thats all I'm saying .