Please can anyone help me. I'm filled with bitter anger. Me and my husband have been together 15 years married for 9. We have one daughter 7 yrs. our relationship has been on and off really bad since he finished his Fifo job last year in June. In my whole life of being with him I've never checked his phones he has 2 phones a work and personal phone. Last Saturday his work phone bleeped and I discovered the horrible messages and can see he has been having an affair. I straight away questioned him and he said she's just a lady friend. Then the next day we had a huge fight and he said I drove him into the arms of another woman. He said he's seen a lawyer and he moved into the spare bedroom. I've seen a lawyer since too. We still love both under the same roof. I won't deny he's a brilliant father but I'm begging anyone out there how do you get over this bitter, hurtful pain in your gut. I'm being very civil at home because of our daughter but again last night I had a dig at him...I can't help it cause I'm hurting. I can't eat and I've lost weight which I need cause I'm already skinny. I'm seeing a phycologist soon to help me and my friend support is great. The worst thing about this situation is that he is carrying on like nothing's happend.