Thanks. It looks like we have to sort out the 3rd nap somehow. We just guided by him, ie. checking tired sign etc. DH disagrees with me for keeping him up for 3 hrs. He was a stay at home dad for the last 3 months. I am back part time now so that would be what i am pushing on and trying to drop his 3rd nap.
@VicPark: happy to post a 9 months old schedule? He is on solid now, no night feeding. Daycare tries to do morning and afternoon tea which i think is too much food for him.
As for dummy, it isn't much of a problem for us anymore. He knows how to put it back in at night. We have a dummy chain clipped to his sleeping bag + glow in the dark dummies spreading in his cot. HIs night waking these days has nothing to do with it anymore. Comforter doesn't do anything. We intro it fairly early on and still use it. Somehow it just doesn't seem to form an attachment to him.