+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123
Results 21 to 29 of 29
  1. #21
    Join Date
    Jan 2016
    Posts
    297
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    92
    Reviews
    0
    Hi, what u experienced was one of my reasons for my elective c, which went great but bf was still hard and it was a few months before I really started to bond, dh was much more bonded than I initially.... So don't blame all ur feelings on the birth a lot of them sound pretty normal to me.... Even without nasty birth.... My bf journey was filled with about 6 bouts of mastitis, poor supply but it got going after lots of initial topping up and he's now 2 next week.... Hoping he'll wean soon I don't want to force him off.... Nipple shields are great I've heard, taking a few days if round the clock Panadol was great for winding pain down I found, as was missing the odd feed and pumping or using formula, all helped me muchly....( my ds had normal tongue but mastitis leave u with weird nipple pains)

  2. #22
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Sunshine Coast
    Posts
    2,963
    Thanks
    2,383
    Thanked
    2,071
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    @Renbird Congratulations on your beautiful bubby girl!! Chin up, you have a lot of beautiful times ahead of you. My birth stories are a little different to yours. I had two post partum haemmorages with my first two and just recently after 9 years gave birth to my 3rd beautiful child and had my good birth. I only lost 300ml because the staff were aware of my history.

    Big hugs to you. Your experience is still raw and no doubt you are still very emotional. That is pretty normal. I was a wreck for a few weeks after DD3 even though her delivery was pretty uneventful. First time is hard too as you don't really know what to expect. Just take it one day at a time.

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to Marchbundle For This Useful Post:

    turquoisecoast  (30-06-2016)

  4. #23
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Posts
    919
    Thanks
    387
    Thanked
    279
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    First of all , massive hug. It's a huge thing you have been through and I totally understand how you feel shell shocked. I had a horrendous birth with my first . I was left physically shaking and I felt abused and tortured by the intervention. I think after that youre left in a state of ' fight or flight ' and it affects how you worry about your baby . You can feel like you cannot sleep because youre in a huge protect mode . You also have feeding issues with the tongue tie too you poor thing which will make it hard . The only advice I can give you is to take time for yourself to heal emotionally . Physically your body will heal . Our bodies are amazing I was so grateful to mine after my son's birth for getting me through it . You should have a debrief about your birth with a birth trauma counsellor . Something I wish I had done . Let yourself cry also , you have had a bloody hard time and you are doing a wonderful job probably on no sleep . It took me a few years to really get to grips with my son's birth but I went on to have two other beautiful births after .
    So , your feelings are normal , you have had tougher time of it , try and find a counsellor to de brief and take time to heal . Huge hug . X

    I've no experience with a tongue tie but hope you get some help with that .

    Hope you have some support . Take care .

  5. #24
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Posts
    4,109
    Thanks
    1,604
    Thanked
    2,085
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Everyone else has given such good advice already!

    I just wanted to second misskitty's advice to get the tongue tie clipped.

    I've used chiropractic for years and am a fan of it, and while it may help if bub's neck got wrenched during birth it will not help the TT.

    With my 2nd I persisted to 5w hoping things would improve (hospital midwife dismissed TT when I said things didn't feel right on day 2). Then my child health nurse put me on to the council lactation consultant who diagnosed posterior tongue tie and put me on to a local GP who could clip it in his rooms. The Dr said 5w is pretty late to do them in-room as bub has lots of head movement. So the sooner you get it done the smaller a task it will be.

    Another practical point, are you on iron? I only half the blood you did, but a good chelated iron supplement was essential for my physical recovery.

    It will take longer to heal mentally. I think it took me birthing my 2nd (5 years later) to truly come to peace with my traumatic birth of my first.

  6. #25
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    1,247
    Thanks
    1,058
    Thanked
    801
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Oh, Ren. Huge hugs. Everything you're feeling is completely normal. Everyone has already said everything I would have said, I think, and much better than I could.
    If no one has said it yet, it's important to remember that if you feel that the birth was traumatic, then your feelings are valid. Everyone processes things in different ways, and while others may have had similar experiences, each experience is still individual. There are traumatic birth support groups out there, many of them online.
    If you are finding that your mood is low consistently for 2 weeks or more, it may be worthwhile chatting to your GP. Even if all that happens is that they are aware of it and you're being monitored, it's a good start for "just in case".
    Be kind to yourself lovely. You've had a difficult start. Sending hugs and positive thoughts.

  7. #26
    Join Date
    Jun 2016
    Posts
    26
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    12
    Reviews
    0
    Ladies, I want to reply to all of you individually but it's a bit awkward on my phone and we're currently in the car on our first family outing! We're about to have this tongue tie issue looked at, I'll post an update here later if anyone is curious.

    I'm so glad I joined this forum, you all said exactly what I needed to hear and because of that, my spirits were lifted and I had such a good night. I'm still in a really good mood, so thank you, you have no idea how much I needed it.

    To answer a couple of questions-
    I'm taking iron supplements religiously and I'll be getting my hemoglobin checked this week as well as our 6 week appointment.

    I love the idea of a birth trauma counsellor, especially since I want a second baby eventually and I don't want to leave my fears unaddressed. I'll look into that once things are a little more settled.

    I've been seeing an LC through the council; she's the one who diagnosed the tongue tie. I don't know that I've gained much else from her (apart from the u-hold) so I might look into a private LC, especially to help post tongue tie procedure.

    Once again, thanks for all your lovely comforting words. It's amazing something so natural as motherhood can be so distressing and difficult, we all need to lean on each other!
    Wish us luck today 😄

  8. The Following User Says Thank You to Renbird For This Useful Post:

    GirlsRock  (30-06-2016)

  9. #27
    BH-KatiesMum's Avatar
    BH-KatiesMum is offline Community Manager
    Winner 2008 - The most optimistic poster
    Winner 2014 - Most Helpful Moderator
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Perth WA
    Posts
    22,393
    Thanks
    5,359
    Thanked
    5,806
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator
    200 Posts in a week100 Posts in a week
    good luck

    Personally - I dont like it when people say "something as natural as motherhood" as it kind of implies that its something you should just know how to do. Its NOT. It doesnt just come to you when the baby comes out. All the skills are learned, they take time and adjustment ... its HARD.

    you are doing fabulously well - and every day you will learn more and do better.

  10. #28
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    3,318
    Thanks
    5,142
    Thanked
    7,768
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    @Renbird Good luck today

    So sorry your birth was traumatic, that sounds horrendous. I just wanted to add that if breastfeeding does send you mental then there is no shame in bottle and/or formula feeding. Do what is best for you and your baby.

  11. #29
    Join Date
    Sep 2014
    Posts
    417
    Thanks
    219
    Thanked
    154
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by Renbird View Post
    Ladies, I want to reply to all of you individually but it's a bit awkward on my phone and we're currently in the car on our first family outing! We're about to have this tongue tie issue looked at, I'll post an update here later if anyone is curious.

    I'm so glad I joined this forum, you all said exactly what I needed to hear and because of that, my spirits were lifted and I had such a good night. I'm still in a really good mood, so thank you, you have no idea how much I needed it.

    To answer a couple of questions-
    I'm taking iron supplements religiously and I'll be getting my hemoglobin checked this week as well as our 6 week appointment.

    I love the idea of a birth trauma counsellor, especially since I want a second baby eventually and I don't want to leave my fears unaddressed. I'll look into that once things are a little more settled.

    I've been seeing an LC through the council; she's the one who diagnosed the tongue tie. I don't know that I've gained much else from her (apart from the u-hold) so I might look into a private LC, especially to help post tongue tie procedure.

    Once again, thanks for all your lovely comforting words. It's amazing something so natural as motherhood can be so distressing and difficult, we all need to lean on each other!
    Wish us luck today
    Good luck with the tongue and lip tie procedure!

    We are going through the exact same issue at the moment with our LO who is 5 weeks/1 week corrected.
    She had her tongue snipped in hospital and her poor latch was down to being prem but no improvement. I am now seeing a specialist next week to review her tongue tie as they snipped the anterior one but more often than not there is a posterior one that a lot of ppl miss and also her lip tie was not diagnosed but confirmed by health nurse last week she has a pretty bad one.

    Baffles me that something that can be 'fixed' is often missed or missed diagnosed - it can have such an impact on mum and bubs breastfeeding journey.

    Love to hear how everything goes post the procedure where about a are you located?
    There is a great fb page for ties that offers great support!


 

Similar Threads

  1. What kind of cm did you have before your bfp?
    By tlakat in forum Conception & Fertility General Chat
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 02-05-2016, 21:28
  2. Mispronounced Words *spin off*
    By Catzilla in forum General Chat
    Replies: 152
    Last Post: 18-01-2016, 07:04
  3. M300W words for prep in Vic
    By ICanDream in forum School aged children
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 11-11-2015, 13:01

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Nice Pak Products
Australian Made and Owned. The Baby U Goat Milk Skincare range is enriched with soothing goats milk sourced from country, Victoria. Goat's milk has a pH level close to that of our own skin and contains natural sources of amino acids and vitamins.
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
LCF Fun Languages Australia
We offer foreign language lessons for children 2-12 yrs in French, Spanish, Mandarin, Italian or German as after-school and preschool clubs or private language tuition. This is play-based, full immersion language learning with proven results!
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!