Are you a professional?
If you say no to either of the above your opinion comes a place of complete ignorance. You can't say if someone needs help or not without knowing a lot more than the op has said.
I am mum of 6 kids 4 with invisible disabilities. I know without doubt that there are idiots out there with a opinions that unless a child is doing whatever preconceived idea there small minds deem a disability, than just bad parenting/teacher seeing things /bad kid.
A assessment for asd, adhd, ocd, spd and thousand other disorders doesn't not harm a child. It's not painful. The only thing it can do is help. Either you come out with no he/she is fine or hey there this wrong but hey we can help. We can improve your child's life and yours to boot.
Haha ok easy ladies. OP asked for opinions and that's mine
I'm happy to do whatever it takes to help. It's just so hard when he's coming home always having a great day at kindy, behaves at home (mostly.. I only ever think of him as a great kid) but his kindy only has complaints about him.. He comes home singing songs he's learnt, talking about playing with the other kids and when I've questioned him why he doesn't want to put his shoes on he explained it's because they get sand in them. I don't think he realises he can fix that problem himself :/ I told them what he told me about his shoes and asked them if they can help him with it when he's shoes come off (help him empty the sand out or remind him that he can) but they still just complain that he doesn't wear them. There is a shoe basket where i've seen other shoes in but apparently it's still an issue as they dob on him whenever I pick him up.
So I will gladly get him assessed but they could've handed me the report with a chat instead of "here's an OT report some students did on your son.. There's places to get referrals in the back of the form".. No reassurance or anything. The day before when one of the teachers started her dobbing of him to me I shook my head and said "does he have good days?!" and she said "yeah!" I feel like apologizing that my son makes their job so hard..
Look go to dr and absolutely reassure yourself as to whether there is/isn't an issue.
However from what you have said it just seems like the carers are handling this very poorly. If they are not happy with some of his behaviours where's the action plan? What are they doing to help him and you? What strategies are in place to avoid the problem behaviours?
It just sounds like they've labelled him a problem and worse not THEIR problem.
OP, you are doing the right thing by going to the GP to explore an assessment.
To me, nothing you've posted screams 'red flags' for anything in particular (I have a 5 year old with ASD), but considering the preschool took it upon themselves to have an OT student assess him sounds like maybe they do feel there's something more at play?
What I don't think is fair is that they are not being more upfront if they DO have genuine concerns. They should be meeting with you and constructively discussing it, not just regularly telling you 'he did this bad thing today'. There are always strategies that can be used (both at home and at preschool) to curb challenging behaviours.
I would highly suggest arranging a meeting with the director to have a proper chat about your DS - put your feelings on the table and ask them for constructive feedback.
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