I knew conflict was going to be an issue between us. We got on so well when we met there was no conflict except once and I saw that nasty side to him but I was 32 and wanted kids and had been single a long time so I put those doubts to the back of my mind. We had our first child less than 2 years after we met. We sailed through the first few years it's only the last few the cracks are showing. But I'm honestly too busy and have my own issues to sort out before I would make a call on the longevity of this relationship.
What I mean by changing his behaviour is he is so completely out of line sometimes when he's angry. He says really hurtful things but never says sorry we just ignore each other and then move on. That's super dysfunctional I don't know what goes on his head. Was it private school and boarding or just his personality but he can never admit when he's been wrong. But he'll start making an effort again and I will too because I also have my own weirdness that he puts up with