An old (but not close) friend – who you don’t keep in regular contact with - invites you to their 40th birthday via a facebook invite.
Friend lives about a 5 hour drive from where you live. This same friend attended your birthday party a few years ago, travelling up with a group of other friends (which are close friends to you).
You think you would like to attend and discuss with your other (closer) friend Barney, who is thinking of going also. You and Barney exchange texts and are both warming to the idea.
You sleep on it, and after a lot of thought you change your mind for numerous reasons (logistics/money/child-free party) and let Barney know you’ve decided not to attend.
Barney texts back to say “You really should go, friend made the effort to travel up for your party”.
Do you think Barney is out of line to make such a comment, or is it a fair call? And would you respond to said text, or ignore it?
*FYI, I'm not one of the people in this scenario*