Perception of messy or 'a tip' is very subjective. To me, I can walk onto someone's house, they'll apologise for the mess and I think it looks fine! Just some toys strewn around, because kids are kids. But if it was my house? I'd see every bit of dirt and mess and it would bother the hell out of me. And that's the thing I need to remember, people are probably like that when they come to my house too. They don't notice the crumbs on the floor or the clutter on the bench. Because generally it is clean with just the usual family related mess around. I clean weekly (bathrooms, deep kitchen clean, mop floor) and do vacuuming daily, plus the usual wiping of benches several times a day after preparing food. And spot cleaning when kids spill stuff obviously, plus tidying toys ..yet still I think my house is messy. I'm fighting a losing battle. And I'm pretty sure everyone thinks it looks good anyway, given I have three kids aged 5 and under!